I've been recovering from traumatic stuff recently. And true to form, as I've read about happening in other places my friends have left me and ostracized me excluded me from social circle at the college. I am taking a break off from my college and I'm in my city taking classes at a community college and this college that I have friends that. I was intending to participate in the Greek life with my friends at this college but that is no longer an option and of course it's exclusive so I can't participate without knowing somebody on the inside. The us right now I am living at home with my parents with no social life and I have to create one from scratch.

Creating a social life is difficult because my self-esteem and my psyche have taken a beating from all these combined episodes and I should say that one of the episodes is fighting my ex-girlfriend in court which I've made a previous post about on TRP and asktrp. My social awkwardness which never was really a big obstacle is now a huge source of anxiety and self-doubt and depression. I've almost always lived in my head and this is of course the biggest obstacle to success with anybody. But in high school I managed to get by because I formed friendships fairly naturally although if I had discovered TRP earlier I would've had a lot more friendships and a lot more influence.

So now that I'm starting out at the bottom i'm faced with two choices: be proactive and construct a social circle or don't try and don't care and whatever happens happens.

I don't like the second approach because it could very well happen that nothing happens and I go the next four years without a social circle and I lose these for years in my young adult life simply because I don't make an effort.

I have not had a lot of success establishing rapport with guys that I have cold approached and tried to have a conversation with in the hopes of creating a friendship. I fear that these guys that I talked to during my semester at my actual college caught onto the fact that I was trying to meet them in the hopes of creating frat connections later on, and that just didn't pan out to actual friendships. Once again I'm faced with the obstacle of having to create new guy friends out of cold approach with no social proof to attract Friends of either gender passively.

So my questions are:

Should I focus on making guy or girl friends first?

What should I look for in a guy that I would called approach and how should I establish rapport with a complete stranger?

What are tips for opening and gaming a girl at the beginning of class in the early days of the semester in the earshot of other girls?

If I don't live on either campus what should my logistics be for getting women somewhere that I can bang them?

How do I network with people to get into Greek parties and frat houses to do random shit when I don't technically go to the university?