So, when I posted my question to you, it was 2 days before our family summer vacation (Disneyland was awesome!) and as this was a throwaway the automoderator send me a message saying it was kicked back. I decided when things were settled down and we were home I would post again. I had some time today and I was so excited to see people responded and it posted! :D

I really wanted to answer the questions I got on the thread and via pm.

Why would being associated with Red Pill shock you?

Well first off, my experience with Red Pill had lead me to believe that Red Pill meant a guy who's very tall and buff, eats protein powder all day and wears muscle shirts 2 sizes too small that has 7+ girls at once but only 1 who he's "committed" to. I had no idea that the women was even a part of the equation. I'm sorry if that sounds bad and I'm sorry i judged.

How did you find yourself with these ideals?

Well a part of it was cultural I think. I'm half hispanic and my mother was very similar to myself, but she grumbled about it with the other women in my family when the men we not looking. I remember thinking how angry and unhappy they seemed

Us kids were always taught that giving was it's own reward, and that always struck a chord with me and it carried over to other things, including relationships. I found joy in the joy I created and in return I got trust and love. Perfect!

It doesn't sound like that girl is your friend

You're right. She's not anymore.

We met in high school but got close in college. People laughed at how different we were. She was more a free spirit and dated a new guy every week and I was more concerned with passing classes and didn't date at all. We had a few issues but I found her differences endearing. Our fights got bad when I got married and her husband would see me do things for my own and they would fight about it. It carried over to our social group and I felt so guilty, as my husband and I were in the middle of this stupid debate.

All hell broke loose when my husband went over their house (I didn't go) for cards against humanity and she brought it up again and my husband said " She likes how she is. Don't try to change her"

Well apparently I'm abused and my husband's a "redpiller" and he can GTFO. My husband comes home and tells me what happened and I'm pissed and sad. Hubby said we can't be around people like that and we will find a new group of friends. I wholeheartedly agreed with him and when she tried to call I blocked her and went about my life. So she vaguebooked about a bunch of stupid shit and I blocked her their too.

It got me wondering though, if what she said and what I read about RedPill was right. So I posted, because and here I am!

Why would you even take her/those comments seriously

Well, all you hear about is how feminism is to empower women and it's implied that you can't be empowered if you choose to fit in a gender roll. It seems contradictory to me- if feminism is about choosing who and where I want to be and be an equal to others why am I so wrong? I was ELATED to stay home with our babies and be a SAHM. I love retro dresses and think the 50's was the coolest fashion era ever! I cook because it tastes better then premade food and it's healthier. I get up and get dressed every day like I'm going out because I can't live my life in pajamas- it's depressing to me. I think my husband is sexy and we have sex as often as possible.

But all those things are bad. It's bad that I want those things and that I'm grateful for all my husband has done for our family. It's bad that I'm excited my husband bought me a floormate. It's bad that I never say no to sex and it doesn't matter that I want it and I have a high libido. It's all bad and I should feel bad and I never actually thought that their was a group of women out their that believed as I do.

You're not perfect. Their is no unicorn (?)/perfect women/ you lier!!!!

I'm not perfect. I make mistakes and mess up. I can be snippy sometimes and I have a good relationship with Captain Hindsight. But I'm perfect for my husband and me tripping once or twice isn't going to stop me from getting up and continuing. besides, we've never had any life shattering issues. Our fights are usually about what Final Fantasy game is the best or who ate the last cheese stick.

My new view on this sub is that you here WANT to have a more caring roll in a relationship and love your partner in many ways. Though you share a similar name to RedPill, I don't think you have the same goals and they seem like two totally different ballgames. Not every Red Pill women ends up with a Red Pill man, as they could be looking for different things.

Let me know if I got it and I wanted to know if I could stay! I love the idea of a subreddit full of "me" :D

if you have any other questions- please ask! :D