3+ years, I'm 22, she's 20. I already get the blowjobs, however I want them to be better, I want them to be more enjoyable for her and that she initiates the BJ, so I can enjoy them more - nothing gets me off like seeing her enjoying doing it. I see that she's a little stressed and trying to "overtechnique" it.

I've read TSGM and I liked the insight over the psychological aspect of oral sex, however I feel like the section was way too short of examples. Last time I've tried just a little and it seemed to do no difference in case of blowjob, whereas the sex with the TSGM ideas was incredible, she was definitely in a rollercoaster ride, crying out of deeply hidden shame coming out and then screaming etc.; but for blowjob it's like if she was stressing too much to please me. I can definitely see she's not enjoying it as much as she has potential for.

Any experiences with that guys?