Currently have 2 plates going, one of them seems to want to be more than just fuck buddies, and I’ve communicated what I expect from her (i don’t want a relationship, but am open to one.)

Issue is, she has been with all betas previously and has had to take the reigns of the relationship each time, with both guys being needy, so she’s used to acting alpha. She is similar to me in that sense, and she shit tests me beyond belief. It gets quite annoying and I’m not sure if it would go down well with me in a LTR.

She asked me to hang out on Wednesday after I had told her that, if she wanted something more, she would have to put some effort into getting it, leading her to make those plans with me. I still fucked her afterwards, but i don’t think having her make plans most of the time is the only proper way of showing investment into something more.

What should I be looking for? I think I should be making plans, but not so often as to leave space for her to value my time more. I don’t understand exactly what i should be looking for if she decides to invest more. Should i pay attention to how she appreciates me? What she does for me? I would like to reward her investment, but i would have to know exactly what it is to look for.

This is probably a stupid question to be asking, but it would give me insight on how to act with my plates in the future and would be very valuable. I’ve learned a lot from TRP but there are some small things I’d like to fine-tune to perform better in the future.