I just had sex and received a blowjob for the first time at 28 years old and i realise..

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May 18, 2018

THATS IT? what the fuck?

I have been chasing this shit and putting girls on pedestal for 28 years of my life just for this? it is enjoyable and it makes me feel powerful but only for that period, after i CUM i realise i can do so much more instead of wasting time with girls that has nothing to offer other than their pussy.

I rather be chasing my dreams and ambitions with my time. is this all that is for physical intimacy?

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Title I just had sex and received a blowjob for the first time at 28 years old and i realise..
Author ambition_pill
Upvotes 222
Comments 86
Date 18 May 2018 02:00 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/97546
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/8kddo6/i_just_had_sex_and_received_a_blowjob_for_the/
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[–]Endorsed Contributorvandaalen290 points291 points  (8 children) | Copy

Let's wait how you view it after you didn't have sex for six weeks... ;)

Sex is like money. Only important when you have none.

Congratulations though and also congratulations for realizing that sex isn't half as special as people make it.

[–]ice_walker65 points66 points  (4 children) | Copy

Yea, and just like with money, when you have none, and need it the most, it’s hardest to get...

[–]Auphor_Phaksache15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

And when you have it other people help you get more but when you dont you have to work twice as hard.

[–]Pluglord8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is the truest shit on this post

[–]resnine4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

When you don't have it you crave it.

[–]lovemyself1233 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes i must admit this though when im without it for long i spend 70% of the time thinking about it

[–]WordsNotToLiveBy2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nah. Not really. It's more like when you're young, you hunger for experiences you haven't had yet. Once you've had them, and plenty of it, you get a lot of that out of your system and no longer need it as much.

It's true about it being over-rated. It's immediate satisfaction, like food is immediate satisfaction, but there's more to the rest of the day than chasing restaurants.

[–]Herdsengineers80 points81 points  (4 children) | Copy

I've heard it said when your sex life is good, it's 10% of your life. When it's bad, it's 90% of your life. I think one of the keys to growth is to understand when it's bad, it's still only 10% or less.

A good sex life should be a compliment to an already otherwise good life. It shouldn't be what makes your life good.

[–]Shaney962 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Great perspective to have man.

[–]insanity_wow271 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I feel like a lot of people on here see sex as the only thing that matters in life. I just think that must be ultimately unsatisying. The chase is fun and all but you could work your way through an endless succession of women and you'd be bored in no time.

[–]downstem230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

FACTS. This is what a lot of people, redpilled or not, need to learn.

[–]DayGameChirality-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

A good sex life should be a compliment to an already otherwise good life. It shouldn't be what makes your life good.

I have to disagree. Every thing (that matters to you) compliments to a good life.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon70 points71 points  (4 children) | Copy

Right. It's a nice experience and it's good to have in your life, but then you want to get on with other things.

Do both, it's not that difficult.

[–]lovemyself1238 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy

What if I want to get rich, but to have endless supply of pussy along the way.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sure, have at it. It's what I'm trying to do too.

[–]Zanford7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's why we emphasize both lifting and career around here.

[–]room_303-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Be born rich.

[–]3chazthundergut37 points38 points  (1 child) | Copy

Pussy is like water.

It means everything when you can't get it.

But once you can... meh.

[–]Endorsed ContributorAuvergnat4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Solid comparison.

As an animal, we're designed to try to reproduce. As a male mammal, we're designed to crave sex. Sex was designed to be enjoyable to reinforce our behavior to pursue it.

None of this implies that sex would objectively be something amazing, out of this world. OP experiences the unbalance between our intense craving and the reality of a mundane experience of life.

As a man dying of thirst might blow out of proportion the experience of drinking water, simply because his entire being is focused by design to fulfill that need.

[–][deleted] 71 points72 points  (8 children) | Copy

Get a kinky hb8+ that worships every inch of you and then come back

[–]jahesus18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy

This guy kinks.

[–]downstem236 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

You should change your name to trpandnofapgotmerimmed

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Lol how did you know

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Uncle V quoted talking you into a rimjob somewhere. It was glorious yes.

Welcome to kinksville perv. FYI the kinky women are universally broken in some way. They’re fun yet watch for it.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Hilarious people still remember that

[–]downstem230 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

HAHA I got quite the laugh

[–]lovemyself123 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

I definitely need to try hotter girls

[–]juju51542 points43 points  (6 children) | Copy

there are blowjobs... and then there are BlowJobs... and then there are "OMFG I can't fucking breathe, she'll suck my fucking soul out BLOWJOBS"

[–]zboo1h31 points32 points  (4 children) | Copy

Yes and unfortunately those latter blowjobs come from girls that will key your car and set your shit on fire when they find their own hair tie in the bathroom and insist it's some other girl's. Sad!

[–]FemtoG5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Many such cases!

[–]GainzdalfTheWhey0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Indeed good sir!

[–]enjoyit72 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She sounds awesome!

[–]qwertyuiop1112222 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

they find their own hair tie in the bathroom and insist it's some other girl's

Bro, you sound like you've been there!

[–]WordsNotToLiveBy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, but in that case it would seem the best way to attain that would be to pay a professional. The chances of finding a diamond in the rough who can give you that mindblowing bj you're referring to is slim to none.

It's like finding the BJ Unicorn.

[–]cptgoatsack12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Try face fucking her next time

[–]Peter_B_Long3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

My favorite

[–]RedSkeller20 points21 points  (2 children) | Copy

Blowjobs are pretty cool. You get a good one and it will unleash the dragon, and you'll be hunting another one around town like a homeless guy chases a sip of booze.

[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy

I sorta feel like blowjobs are like beer. Any beer is better than no beer.

[–]Ill_Will72 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]TRP VanguardHumanSockPuppet7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy

You've reached an important milestone, congratulations.

Now, hone your seduction skills so you can waste as little time as possible getting laid, and spend more of that time pursuing Your Mission.

[–]BobMargarita 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

But why even get laid at all if you know you can and it's not as enjoyable as other things?

[–]coriollanvs0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Sounds like low testosterone. If you're not desiring it on a normal basis you're broken.

[–]ice_shadow0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not really--people (including guys, who just don't admit it) go through low libido periods and its completely normal. Testosterone doesn't play that huge of a role in sex drive anyways as its made out to be. You don't actually need that much T to have a sex drive.

Neurotransmitters, general mental state, general life, etc affect it far more than T.

[–]zboo1h3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sex is like pizza. When it's hot, it's great. When it's cold, eh, it's still good.

[–]JustinDX1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Noobies might mistake this for necrophilia.. watch your phrasing.

[–]zboo1h2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dead chicks don't shit test.

[–]ks5017 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

so close to an unsub. this sub was at one point about helping dudes with man to man advice. it seems now it just about acting like women are another species not worthy of our dicks. there's a reason it took you 28 years pal, and its you.

[–]AllgBeamtenrecht0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

so. go unsub. nobody's gonna miss you

[–]ks5010 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

7 upvotes to 1. Looks like more people agree with me than you.

[–]AllgBeamtenrecht1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

you deserve every little upvote, sweetheart. you deserve them all.

[–]666mafioso4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

And here we lose another brethren to MGTOW... kidding of course. That’s what happens when you put pussy on a pedestal

[–]Incaahhh2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I too had this sort of revelation when I lost my virginity. Are there more rewarding things in life than sex? Depends on the person. Personally I say yes, but if I had to choose between living without sex or dying, RIP me

[–]CaptainBW2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

An interesting thought occurs to a man, when a fine young thot is shoving his cock down her throat: “this is what it was all for?” You realize how much “importance” you placed upon this exchange of flesh and that its perceived value was skewed by your own brain. Sure, this shit feels good, but it’s nothing more than drugs, or eating food when you’re truly hungry. It satisfies a primal urge. Having an existential crisis during some dope head is a true existential crisis. The red colored pill administered to you is a realization that every effort you put forth in this life is an effort of relief for its inherent suffering, and that you will always be “chasing” something until your last breath, either money, pussy, or peace of mind. Let go and enjoy that which comes to you. We have dicks. God created pussies for us to fuck. Get after it. We’re all slaves in the same greater dominance hierarchy.

[–]1walawalawa2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think....that's your rationalization hamster trying to weasel out of gaming and banging more girls...be careful you don't use the "I can get any girl I want but i just don't want to..."---mode.

28? Dude you've been holding out too long---why? Fear? Lack of self-confidence?

Stop lying to yourself it was no big deal and start being a man and going for what you want.

[–]g4casting13 points14 points  (8 children) | Copy

Haha you need to chill. I see so many of these posts, but they just show that you're still clueless.

When you'll find a girl you think is smoking hot, and you make that girl your submissive slut that you fuck roughly like she's your property without any sort of inhibition or holding back...and you do it to her everywhere for a little while....then you'll know what sex can be. Also condoms, they suck.

Trust me right now, you've lived nothing.

[–]lovemyself1231 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy

explain about the condoms part? I swear i lurk enough to keep reading on trp to always use protection

[–]g4casting-3 points-2 points  (6 children) | Copy

Yes use protection for random hookups. But it still sucks, it completely dulls the sensation for me, I don't really enjoy it. If you have a girlfriend, why would you ever use a condom.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

If you have a girlfriend, why would you ever use a condom.

If you have a girlfriend, you have even more reason to use a condom. I recommend reading The Rational Male

[–]g4casting-5 points-4 points  (3 children) | Copy

I read it. I've used the pull out method for eight years mate. Actually I'll tell you more, I cum inside girls vaginas during specific windows of their ovulation cycle and I've never had a problem. If a girl has a very steady cycle and you know it, a basic understanding of biology is a very efficient form of birth control. The sperm survives for 5 days MAX in the fallopian tubes of a female. Most girls have around a 28 days cycle. Just count about one week as a safety measure. You can literally cum inside a woman's vagina for ~10 days every cycle and she'll NEVER get pregnant. Done this hundreds, thousands of times.

I'll tell you the truth, the people who fail at the pull out method are the same that fail at everything else. You literally have to take your dick out whenever semen is coming out of it, and it's less than a week window around ovulation time. Now don't tell me about STDs, if you have a girlfriend and you're worried she has STDs, you have other problems.

[–]clork2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

There’s so much wrong with this post.

First off, you are relying on something with very thin evidence. But ok if you’ve done it thousands of times sure. Not all girls have such steady cycles. There’s also pre-cum and you don’t know when that’s coming out if you’re fucking. Then, the problem with STDs is that you don’t know she’s got one until you’ve got one... then you have two problems!

Aside from that, you say it feels better but I’d rather not spend the time fucking a girl doing math about her cycles and wondering if it’s time to pull out yet or if I can keep going. Kinda takes me out of the moment.

Don’t spread this bullshit around.

[–]twxxx-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

that kinda life sounds really boring man, but hey to each his own. I agree with the other guy. pullout works within lvls of risk im willing to accept, unless you are a complete moron.

And if your gf is fucking other dudes you deserve the STD.

I've slept with near 1000 women and got chlamydia once. That's it. Still negative for HSV 1&2. Even if you take the studies at their most liberal estimates it's just not that high of risk dude. Even if you are barebacking hookers, strippers and club girls all day. Of course you should decide your perosnal lvl of risk tolerance, but i mean stop driving your car because that's way more likely to hurt you than unprotected sex. And sex is way better.

[–]clork0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The problem is that some people are complete morons. So to spread around the idea that barebacking any girl any time is 99% risk free is silly. I agree with you that it’s a risk that you can take if you want, and in my stupider moments I definitely have. But I regret it afterwards, and I’ve never had an STD either.

I see a lot of really young guys on this sub and if they start taking that as gospel then they’re gonna be in a mess. Kids are no joke.

[–]Endorsed Contributormonsieurhire21 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Eh... maybe you didn't have it with the best possible candidate. I had a similar experience at 19. Years later, I had progressively better sex. Even further down the road, I had some pretty mind-blowing stuff happen. So, don't judge the whole thing by a one-off event.

[–]mrrooftops1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's because you've been tugging and fantasizing about this so much that nothing will ever come close to your incel imagination.

[–]Shkotz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

[–]Wrath_of_Trump2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I only got 1 blowjob I ever liked from some psycho jungle bunny

[–]Zanford0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The age was a lot younger for me, but, I remember a similar revelation. One of the best things about getting blown and laid at that age was that it helped me prioritize self/career goals (I probably have a better career now for it).

It's also possible this chick of yours was a bad lay or gave bad blowies. (Hopefully b/c she had a low notch count, not b/c she didn't care about pleasing you). Nothing better in the world who gives you a bad BJ the first time, but proves to be a quick learner (suggesting it's due to lack of experience and that she does want to learn to please).

[–]AllForTheGains0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Congratulations...r/mgtow is the next step.

[–]Peter_B_Long0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That's all folks! I felt the same way when I lost my virginity. It gets better if you keep fucking the same girl (plates, LTR) cause you learn each other's bodies and personal pleasures.

Obviously sex isn't tofu neither. It's still great. It's still something worth chasing (softly). Once you get your first plate and can get steady sex, you'll naturally think less about sex and you'll be able to focus on your other goals

[–]DayGameChirality0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Depends. Sex with a woman with which you don't know each other particularily well is average to me. But sex with a woman where we both know how to get off each other and we've known each other for months, years, is amazing and you have no idea.

That being said, every late bloom virgin should follow the advice to get laid with a prostitute and get it over with.

[–]resnine0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Also depends on the girl, not all sex is created equal. Some girls are meh others are much better at it. Wouldn't judge your first time as the end all be all of sex.

[–]trp_nofap_rewire20180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, fucking a pussy loses its magic when you actually bust a nut after a few mins and realize it’s no biggie.

The pent-up energy can be well used to improve your live and make more money, work on your mission etc. But you don’t want to be for so long without having some tail. IMHO once a month is good enough.

[–]wawakaka0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

its also your age too, at 28 you are more mature and more developed had you gotten this at 17 it would have blown your mind.

[–]Gozsayin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Had the same realization at 18. For years friends porn and society had beat into my head that sex was like pardaise on earth. Then when I lost my V card I realized that it just didn't meet the hype

[–]PatnarDannesman0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Sex is still the greatest recreational activity in the known universe.

Still, it's the only thing of interest that women have to offer.

[–]oldrunnerguy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Amen brother!!!!

[–]coriollanvs0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Money ain't a thing if you got it

[–]twxxx0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

u had bad sex, get better at it

[–]drsherbert0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I get what you’re saying. Although, the more you start to get it (especially from hawt chicks) the more you’ll start to crave it. Men are hunters, once we’ve conquered something, we move onto the next piece of ass. It’s only half about the release we get from it.

[–]inlovewithyourmother0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is why guys that can't get laid need to get a prostitute ASAP.

[–]recursoinominado0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get a gf that you love, find attractive and trust enough to not use a condom. Sex is mind-blowinly better on those conditions. Smoke some weed, experiment with lsd, mdma and tell me after. Casual sex is often just meh...

[–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I think it's normal to have that feeling the first time no matter what age due to how hyped up it is. I first had sex in my teens and felt similar. As others stated here there is sex and there is good sex/bjs. Wait till you get a girl with no gag reflex to suck you off, I'm in danger of getting a boner at work thinking about it.

[–]Iwannachokekatie0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This is the sole reason why being sexless bothers me tremendously.

I'm well aware it won't be a life changing experience but without it I can't focus on anything else and that's crippling my progress in all areas of life. People can say whatever but if you're not busting your nut in a chicks mouth every now and then you're missing out a significant part of being a man.

[–]justicecantakeanap-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy


I completely agree with you

[–]room_303-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

I rather be chasing my dreams and ambitions with my time

Yeah sure, see you next week big guy.

[–]abudun79[🍰] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Stop fapping. If that does not help, try getting a BJ from a guy.

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