Just fired from all female firm

I work at an all female firm and have been in all female (low men count) jobs since I entered the work force.

I'll be honest with you that if you don't have above average social skills and a decent frame, you will get run over and made into the firm bitch or seen as a threat.

In order to thrive in that environment, you have to constantly be playing people chess and make yourself seen as a point of validation --but not at the top of the hierarchy.

Just like in sports, the gym, school, anything in life really, men will always come out on top if they push hard enough. A new man with potential to outshine lazy women is the worst thing they could dream of. This is amplified as women gossip, back stab, and love to play power games . . . unlike men, who are results orientated.

If they cannot control you, they will get rid of you.

It's that simple.

The way to play a female firm is to validate women who are at the top of the hierarchy, so that when they gossip about you, they're framing you as a nice guy or someone that's going to be great at the job. This trickles down the bitch list, and the ones at the bottom might even try to fuck you --don't do it.

When engaging with top hierarchy women, do cold reads on them, talk about how experienced they are, make them feel good about their place in the firm, and make sure that your compliments and reads are genuine. You are kissing ass but you aren't coming off as a kiss ass. They are just facts out loud, and the fact that you notice them makes you a source of validation.

That's your momentary safety net.

Also, keep in mind that you should never say more than you have to. If given the option between talking about yourself and working, always work instead.

When conversation comes up, your role is to be a positive addition --above average social skills will mean you're good at making people laugh. Keep the conversation light and on them, and you'll notice that over time they will divulge their true feelings about the job to you. Women love to complain more than anything else, maybe even more than they do backstabbing each other.

This is a good place to be.

Listen to how lazy they are, reflect back at them and empathize with their situation, but never ever talk bad about anyone else at the firm. Sometimes what looks like a deep and meaningful discussion is actually her trying to break your frame so she can spread dirt about you to other people at the firm.

You know that old lady that brings you ginger cakes on Monday? She'll fuck you over just as fast as sweet-tits Robin. Don't break frame.

What is your frame?

Your frame is always as the kind friendly father figure who is good to everyone. Even if you are younger then them or don't really give a shit. You rarely ever complain, and if you ever do, it's about the same things they complain about and neutral to the job (rapport).

You are someone that everyone can rely on and just a genuine guy who is there to do his job --nothing more than that.

Image is key.

The day you take sides with any one women, you will have started the slow process of the entire firm getting rid of you.

Sounds stupid? It is.

But on a biological level a man who picks sides in a fight between women is as low on the sexual hierarchy as they are. They can't respect you if you are on their level. With women, sexuality and identity are not separate.

In a way, you lucked out by getting let go, and while it does suck you need to take your next workplace into consideration.

Working with an all women team is not always hell, but most of the time it is. This may not be for you, and the challenge probably isn't worth it if you have options when it comes to jobs.

It goes without saying that you shouldn't note them down as a referee. Best of luck in the next job