I posted about a month ago about how I dumped a girl I didn't see a future with about 4 months ago. Then 3 months ago I re-contacted her after missing companionship to find out she's moved on with another guy, something I didn't think would happen so quickly, this of course triggered oneitis.

Since then I've religiously hit the gym both lifting 5 days a week and cardio 6-7 days a week. I've also started reading the sidebar and plan to read more of it more frequently. What I haven't done however is started to cold approach.

I re-connected with a girl I used to goto school with and I asked her out twice to which she flaked or bailed so that ended. That's about the extent of my journey so far.

On the oneitis though, some days I wake up feeling okay, my mind is clearer and I go about my day. Then other days it hits me, and there's a low-level anxiety in my stomach constantly and there are periods of time where I obsess over thoughts of her. Stupid irrelevant thoughts like "I bet she's doing X right now because its 9:00am" or "She told me she still misses me, does that mean she still loves me?" or "Does the new guy fuck better than me? I was her first...". I live on the north side of my city and she the south. I dread traveling to the south end of the city for any reason just because of the reminders. Every time I pass the highway exit for her house I reminisce.

All these thoughts ultimately are pointless. They always seem to happen when I'm alone not doing anything that important, such as walking around at work with no task I'm working on, or at home by myself not on discord with anyone etc.

However when I arrive at the gym I'm filled with a kind of hope just seeing the available women out there and generally just being around people, like the world hasn't ended and there's no reason I can't eventually game an 8.

Realistically how long does it take to be free from the anxiety of oneitis?