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Are women less emotional then men actually?

September 19, 2022
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From reading women magazine, dating articles, and interacting with women online I feel like they are less emotional and disdain getting attached. While the men in my life express their emotions freely and get attached easily. So I was wondering if I am correct or incorrect here

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Title Are women less emotional then men actually?
Author roseonyxa
Upvotes 8
Comments 45
Date September 19, 2022 5:43 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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[–]rurunoa 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

i think im less emotional than the people around me. i only get really emotional over material things or my grades or if something really terrible happens like losing a loved one

[–]ALexusOhHaiNyan 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dunno about that. But there is a marked decrease in empathy for men, we just aren’t real to them at the moment.

Mileage may vary. The younger and single-er and immersed in Gen Z culture she is the higher chance she holds dehumanizing fear based views on men due to an ideology going around. The older and more married she is the less so.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah that makes sense to me

[–]hudibrastic 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

From what I have seen woman is more emotionally affected by external distant factors or things that put them under pressure: A poor person telling their life story, tragedies that don't affect her, how external viewers perceive her, pressure at work, etc.

That is also why they are more often to virtue signal how empathetic they are.

However, when it comes to relationships they are cold as rock and can forget years of relationship in a blink when they think they can get a better Chad

[–]Environmental_Lie561 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No way do I replace my partners and I actually date down… So ha to your red pill shit.

[–]decoy88A Black Dude♂️ 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Are you a woman?

[–]caption291 2 points3 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Men and women have emotions...that's part of it but it's not really what(reasonable) people mean when they say women are more emotional than men. What (reasonable) people mean when they say that is that women let their interpretation of reality be influenced by their emotions more than men.

I think women's fear of being attacked at random while being outside is a good example of it. Women aren't much more likely to be attacked when outside than men...but if you listened to women about the subject you would get the impression that women are getting attacked by men every 2 seconds if they ever step foot outside without an escort at any time after 6 while men have no reason to ever fear being outside.

I think what happens is that from a certain perspective women can appear to be emotionless when in reality they are just displaying a different kind of emotion. By example a woman might ruthlessly exchange her current partner for a model that's 5% better and treat her past partner as trash. You could see that as women being cold and calculating or you could see that as women being incredibly insecure about their social status.

[–]BoxxyFoxxy -1 points0 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

We all have emotions and all of our realities are influenced by emotion. It’s the one thing that separates us from machines.

Women are more likely to be attacked when outside by men, even though women invest much, much more caution into not being attacked.

“But if you listened to women about the subject, you would get the impression that women are getting attacked by men every 2 seconds if they ever step foot outside without any escort”

“By example, a woman might ruthlessly exchange her current partner for a model that’s 5% better and treat her past partner as trash”

Source? Or are your emotions influencing your perception of reality?

[–]decoy88A Black Dude♂️ -1 points0 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Women are less likely to be attacked outside than men. Where tf are you getting your numbers from?

[–]BoxxyFoxxy 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

The person I responded to said that “women are not much more likely to be attacked when outside than men”.

Also, women get raped and kidnapped. If you’re referring to physical assault, like I said, women go out of their way to preserve themselves from that. If you’re referring to murder, women make up a huge majority of domestic victims, while men make up a majority of general murder victims (also committed by men). Bear in mind that men are much more likely to be involved in crime and gangs.

[–]decoy88A Black Dude♂️ -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

The person I responded to said that “women are not much more likely to be attacked when outside than men”.

And they are objectively correct.

Also, women get raped and kidnapped.

True.

If you’re referring to physical assault,

Yes. Physical assault is an “attack”

women go out of their way to preserve themselves from that.

Many are overcautious and paranoid about it, true.

If you’re referring to murder, women make up a huge majority of domestic victims,

not outside

while men make up a majority of general murder victims (also committed by men).

including outside

Bear in mind that men are much more likely to be involved in crime and gangs.

Not true. They are just more likely to be involved in the violence aspect of crime, because they are more capable.

Whether the perpetrators of violent crime are men or not is irrelevant to the discussion on who’s more emotional.

[–]caption291 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Their numbers aren't wrong, they were just straw manning by adding "by men" at the end of the statement and they are implicitly comparing it to men being attacked by women.

[–]decoy88A Black Dude♂️ 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah it’s dumb. Of course the sex that’s more capable and more likely to be successful at violence will be the sex that uses violence more.

Did they know women are more likely to breastfeed than men are? It’s unnecessary nonsense.

[–]caption291 -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

We all have emotions and all of our realities are influenced by emotion.

And what I said is that the degree to which men and women are influenced is different. You should read what people say before replying.

Women are more likely to be attacked when outside by men

What I said is specifically "Women aren't much more likely to be attacked when outside than men". You are the one that added "by men". I think that's an actual example of victim blaming. The overwhelming majority of men aren't violent and don't want to be violent...we are victimized by that subgroup of men that are violent just as much as women are. If anything, I'd argue the average(read: median) man has done more to prevent the violent subgroup from being violent than the average woman. A man isn't going to be happy about having to eat trough a straw for the rest of his life because the person that assaulted him had a penis just like him.

Source?

For what? The possibility that a woman could ruthlessly dump her current partner for a chance at a slightly better partner??? More importantly: Did you not understand what the point of the example was because you were chasing a "gotcha" instead of an actual argument?

[–]BoxxyFoxxy 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My point was obvious. There is no difference in gender when it comes to that. For example, misogynists will think that women are less realistic due to emotion clouding their judgement, without realizing that their negative emotions towards women is what’s clouding their judgement and making them more likely to associate women with negative traits.

Not my point. You admitted to women being more likely to be attacked than men, and your reply failed to acknowledge either one of my points.

Victim blaming? What is an example of victim blaming that I pointed out?

Source that women routinely do that while men never do that - since you chose to use that example when describing ways in which women can be crueler than men.

[–]Slipthe 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women aren't much more likely to be attacked when outside than men...but if you listened to women about the subject you would get the impression that women are getting attacked by men every 2 seconds if they ever step foot outside without an escort at any time after 6 while men have no reason to ever fear being outside.

There's really no reason to ignore the risk. No need to become a statistic just because a woman wanted to walk across town at 2 am.

[–]IHateNormis 5 points6 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Females are more cold in regards to sex and relationships. They will gladly tell a low status male they are not entitled to anything without feeling bad but they are emotional in regards to everything else, for example they are really into astrology and stuff like that.

[–]decoy88A Black Dude♂️ 2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Are you a woman?

[–]IHateNormis 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

No

[–]decoy88A Black Dude♂️ 3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

It’s a Q4W, why answer with a top comment?

[–]IHateNormis 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I identified as one when I answered the question

[–]BoxxyFoxxy 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Because this “all pill debate” is 99% red pill, from the comments alone.

[–]revente 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Women are emotion-driven but are shallower with their feelings.

Men are the opposite.

[–]Drive-By-CuckersWhitePill 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Neuroscience actually kinda shows the opposite trend. Higher levels of testosterone suppress prefrontal cortex activity, making people make decisions quicker and more based on emotion rather than logical thought

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0956797619851753#:~:text=By%20demonstrating%20that%20testosterone%20influences,these%20findings%20extend%20previous%20research.

Women when compared to men, especially young women compared to young men, are better at planning ahead, whereas young men are typically more risk taking and less cautious

This effect diminishes as people age and their sex hormone levels go down

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Can you elaborate?

[–]catniagara 2 points3 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

No. Humans are similarly emotional. Men have more anger issues and they are normalized. Men also insult or make fun of women, and treat us like our opinions don’t matter especially if they want to tell the “you’re being emotional” lie which incites women to completely shut down around men. I mean trash men. But if a guy was one of the good ones he wouldn’t be in the he-man-woman-haters-club “manosphere”

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for your insight I appreciate it 😊

Now I am curious as to why adults are less emotional than children in terms of feeling attached, a lot of people explain this away as a natural part of adult hood but I wonder if it actually has to do with the stressors of modern life and how we are socialized when growing up?

[–]catniagara 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Kids are in different places on the attachment spectrum and so are adults. I can’t say why. It could be genetics, the way they’re raised, birth order, or something else.

Like for example my brother is a very independent person but I get extremely attached to people. My dad said when we were babies I used to cry if you put me down, and he used to cry if you picked him up.

So when somebody broke up with my brother at a restaurant he just kinda put his money on the table, said “okay,” got up and left. He had a new girlfriend like a half day later. And I mean that was a 6 year relationship. He loved that girl. He just doesn’t get attached to anything or anyone. Even as a kid he was like that. My mom would throw out his stuff and he’d just be whatever. He didn’t have a lot of stuff because he’d get rid of whatever he didn’t need or use. If some kid didn’t like him or tried to make fun of him it was their problem and their fault.

When a guy I really liked moved away and said it was better if we stopped dating, after several unsuccessful dates where there was no chemistry, I just stopped dating for almost two years to avoid getting attached to someone who would leave. And I was also the kid who would freak out if my mom put my toys in the laundry and put them back in a different position than I left them in, who needed other kids to like me, who was terrified my parents didn’t love me, who needed to feel validated by my friends.

I couldn’t sleep alone. He couldn’t sleep in a shared room. I had to bring 4 suitcases, my own pillow and blanket when I travelled. He moved to China with 5 outfits and a couple pairs of shoes lol.

It’s definitely not a gender thing. I went to camp every year with 20 other girls, and I’m telling you for every one of us at the girls camp there was a male doppelgänger over at the boys camp.

If any of that makes any sense, idk I’m just rambling.

TL;DR attachment is a spectrum that doesn’t have a gender.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yeah attachment might not be gendered but I do think culture and environment affects our attachment style and strength rather than adulthood itself or evolution. I think that's worth investing honestly

[–]catniagara 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Idk

[–]decoy88A Black Dude♂️ 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Now I am curious as to why adults are less emotional than children in terms of feeling attached,

Practice.

[–]shreyastalpade -1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

But if a guy was one of the good ones he wouldn’t be in the he-man-woman-haters-club “manosphere”

Aaah the good guy and real man trope

[–]catniagara 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

They’re people, not tropes, and the only men I’ll have in my life. Not because they’re tall, or sexy, or 25. As a matter of fact many of the happily married, dating, gay, or even completely perverted men in my circle are teddy bear types who weigh close to 400 lbs and have massive beards. One of my friends does a pretty mean Santa Claus 🥰 The only thing they have in common that manosphere guys lack is basic human decency and respect for women. Literally zero other differences.

[–]shreyastalpade -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Typical story most women tell on all dating related forums about bums getting girls bcuz of PErSoNaLiTy meanwhile bums in real life are touch starved and sexless since eternity.

[–]catniagara 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

We’re talking about people we actually know. Guys in the manosphere don’t get laid because they present themselves as a threat to women and especially children.

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Women are more emotional than man. We can get affected over anything even without any reason.

[–]revente 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

It means that you're emotion-driven, not that your emotions are deeper.

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah you can say that

[–]SwaySh0t -2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Women are more emotional biologically, it’s expressed mostly with how they easily communicate with infants(who obviously can’t talk) plus that part of the brain is more developed than men. Women experience a wider range of emotions while men experience narrower deeper set of emotions.

[–]decoy88A Black Dude♂️ 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Are you a woman?

[–]Slipthe 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Depends on the people and the situation.

But I wonder if women being socially driven gets lumped in with being emotionally driven.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Men are more impulsive. Testosterone seems to be a very intense hormone.

Women's hormonal emotions are more noticable because the hormone levels change over a shorter period of time. It's easy to see that many women cry more easily at certain times of the month. It's harder to look at the role of testosterone in the male rate of crime compared to age.

[–]no_bling_just_dingWhitePill (self aware MSTOW) 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

(i am male) well not really: i believe it's about equal. women tend to have different emotions than men or display them in a more socially visible manner. their empathy is shown towards things society in general values, like (cute) animals and children (less so toward adult men, which is why i doubt they're actually more empathetic.) they have fears men don't have, that can be much more neurotic than men's, such as constant fear of being raped.

the female fear of rape has stayed at a stable ~32% of women who say they are very afraid in the united states of being raped regardless of social changes since 2000 and the fact women are generally less targeted for violence. they are also less likely to support nuclear and generally prefer censorship of views and people they feel endanger them more than men do. (women are generally more neurotic than men.) you have to understand though: these emotions tend to have a basis in evopsych. the (generally overblown in my view) female fear of rape generally involves a male that she finds undesirable (you see a desirable man in rape fantasies, not an unattractive one) impregnating her, robbing her instead of 'offering' the right price for access to sex as it were. statistically, a black woman is safer than a white man from homicide and men get raped about as often as women. but men don't band together and shout about imaginary rape culture.

the female fear of being unsafe from hostile and divergent opinions is because they needed a sort of social "herd instinct" to survive and reproduce more often than men did as they were less materially productive than men. and so on.

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You are right about rape fear or sexual assault. I was afraid to go outside after inappropriate incident.

Just few days ago,my friends told me story about 44 days of hell case and Fritzl case.Now I am horrified and had sleepless night.

[–]no_bling_just_dingWhitePill (self aware MSTOW) 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

i am sorry that assault happened to you

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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