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for men, your Looks dictates your Self-esteem and Energy levels

March 15, 2023

It's true if you grow up in a "normal" family and didn't have serious traumas during childhood, which is basically average guy description.

Most normies/bluepilled don't even realize it but they would feel a completely different person if they simply looked differently. They think that they accept how they look but are just deluding themselves and avoid to compare to more attractive guys to keep the inferiority complex suppressed, similarly to body positive women

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Title for men, your Looks dictates your Self-esteem and Energy levels
Author l00ks-p1lled
Upvotes 13
Comments 16
Date March 15, 2023 12:27 AM UTC (1 week ago)
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[–]kurumon24 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

men value validation more than being beautiful, you can see this in male focused media vs female focused media, female drawn romance comics feature pretty girls with pretty guys, male drawn media features average guys or ugly bastards with pretty girls, the problem is that most men don't want to be beautiful fundamentally and think its gay.

[–]l00ks-p1lled[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah but the equation I'M HOT = I'LL GET VALIDATION is already present in every men's mind, so if someone happened to become hot they'd notice it and their personality would change over time.

However I also think that with blackpill and looksmaxxing becoming more mainstream many men will shift towards the attitude "I want to become hot for myself too"

[–]drinktonumb 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Maybe, but also a lot of men will get jaded and stop caring, then disengage entirely. That's the path I'm on.

[–]crypto_druid 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

But I don't look different.

What can I do to increase my self esteem and energy ?

[–]l00ks-p1lled[S] 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Have sex with someone that lusts for you or do stuff where you're going to succeed and being recognized for it. You can also try to forget about redpill and blackpill, but I don't think it's possible

[–]crypto_druid 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I've never thought about pills, so I don't need to worry too much about that. I've always had my own mind, never subscribed to group think.

But I did like what you said here....

“do stuff where you're going to succeed and being recognized for it“.

I totally agree with that, most of my success in life came from the value I had to offer other people.

Don't you think it would be better to focus on what non conventionally attractive men should do in order to have a healthy sense of esteem? Rather than focusing on other peoples good luck and fortunes which ultimately do nothing for us?.

I really don't care that the next man is prettier, richer or taller than me, I want to focus on me and make myself the best I can so I can enjoy life

[–]Hyena_UtopiaBlackPill 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

If your goal is to enjoy life, hard work and taking responsibility isn’t the play. Just letting you know in advance

[–]crypto_druid 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

hows not working and not taking responsibility working for your happiness?.

[–]SoldierExcelsior 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good looks help with everything in life..But you can find enjoyment in life outside validation on your looks...being competent and capable will do you better as a man...That's why even ugly men ate heralded if they are good at something...Like Biggie Smalls or Heavy D or Fat Joe nor Big Pun...These are rappers but but they even put their negative traits as art of their name females wouldn't do that the ugliest chick will be called pretty or Queen.

Any way plenty of unnatractive men do well in life because they vary good at something..

The only thing I will say as an unnatractive man is don't believe women their lying to you and only with you for resources no matter what they say proceed with caution don't fall in love.

[–]crypto_druid 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

Getting in shape can give men the “permission slip” to act and behave confidently around women.

Doesn't work for all men though, if they have deep trauma or esteem issues then getting jacked or going under the knife won't fix that or improve their interpersonal skills.

[–]l00ks-p1lled[S] 1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Kinda true, but they still won't get much more. Most women want someone with a pretty or hot face not just a nice body

[–]crypto_druid 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

And many others just want a competent and capable man who is true to his word, can deliver on his promises, can communicate and be empathetic, can provide and protect her children and knows how to mentally arouse her.

[–]l00ks-p1lled[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

you're forgetting a good looking face and not being too short

[–]crypto_druid -1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I've got a good idea, let's sweep under the rug every other factor that goes into attraction except for the two factors we don't have. Then let's think and talk ONLY about that.

Surely, that will be greatly beneficial to our development as men.

For gods sakes man, sort......it......out.

[–]l00ks-p1lled[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

maybe cause this two factors are the first ones to matter and the ones that open the door for the others?

[–]crypto_druid -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They all matter and they can all open doors.

You just have OCD about your BDD which makes it impossible for you to think about anything else.

Someone has to say it

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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