From male perspective, women are not the more empathic gender.

Woman gets pumped and dumped, that makes her feel like shit.

When her female friend hears her story, she can see things from her perspective. She feels bad about it herself, she emaphizes, the feeling is so intense she might even cry because of it.

When I hear her story... If I was sexually used by a whole female soccer team, I would feel so great about it that I would spend the rest of my days high-fiving other guys. The only bad thing about the whole story is that at one point they stoped using me for sex.

Still, when I put myself into her shoes, I see her situation as a woman. And I do feel bad about it, I empathize.

Not enough to cry with her because... I'm a guy, my serotonin levels are higher, my emotions are numbed down. I don't cry for my problems either.

So women high five each other thinking they are more empathic gender. And men are emotionaly stumped pieces of wood.

OKay, lets take a look at things from male perspective.

If I find out my partner sees me as a good provider, but a sub-par lover. I feel like shit.

I share my story with a man, he can see the things from my perspective. He empathizes. I don't cry, he doesn't cry, I get a pat on my back, we drink a cold one.

If I share my story with a woman. She put's herself in HER shoes. Then she tries to womansplain to me why I shouldn't feel bad because reasons and logic.

Just like a sociopath would.

Who cares if her empathic feelings are stronger if she can't even empathize with my male specific problems?

When men don't want to emotionaly open up, well we open up with our buddies just fine. We are hesitant with opening up to women, because... you can't empathize with our male specific issues. We just give up. When men don't want to hear your emotional problems, that's because this whole emotional exchange often feels like a one way street.

Just look at this sub. Guys never argue that women shouldn't feel bad about a bunch of female specific issues, even though we would feel great to have those. We can empathize.

Women are arguing about guys "feels bad" stuff all the time