Ladies, let me explain why high body counts are bad for you, okay?

SwimmingTheme3736 · 2022-11-08T03:10:52+00:00

Please don’t assume all women with high n count have been pumped and dumped

LiftSushiDallas · 2022-11-08T03:02:38+00:00

There is an assumption in the first paragraph that the woman is getting dumped, rather than just having sex and moving on when the "relationship" ends (either after a night, a few weeks, a few months).

It could be that she sleeps with the man once, or they do a FBW situation and both fade out on each other.

So while it may not always be the case, or even the case the majority of the time, a woman could garner a higher body count without being the one getting dumped because she simply didn't want more from the men she chose to sleep with casually. Not all women who have sex with a man without commitment WANT or EXPECT commitment from that man.

SilentFroggy · 2022-11-08T03:03:09+00:00

Would men still find high n count women unattractive if it didn’t come with any consequences?

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-11-08T13:42:07+00:00

I agree on both; in an ideal relationship, both partners would be low n. I unfortunately have high n and learned about this shit too late (also I'm already married)

ElectricBugs · 2022-11-08T03:08:06+00:00

Johnny Depp doesn't have trauma from high n count

Glad-Discount-4761 · 2022-11-08T03:35:04+00:00

Men who fuck around can also encounter serious trauma, see Johnny Depp for instance.

Lol.He can still have fun and live good life and still get loyal hot young woman.

It may affect men but they can get compensation.For women,once it is done,it is done

Eyesofmalice · 2022-11-08T11:00:55+00:00

I think you’re not identifying that sex is also pleasurable for women. Even beyond the physical pressure people in our society draw from sex validation (I’m not saying this is natural by the way, I think it’s cultural). Just as the patriarchy makes masculinity effective in terms of how many women are attracted to you, femininity is validated in relation to the status of the person they can get attracted to them.

I also disagree with your idea that what matters in the end is long term happiness, because it’s very dubious to claim that women would be happier in the long term by not having as much sex as they could. I guess that’s a question for an stoic but if you’re predisposed to have easy access to sex and also to be able to play those games and be defensive since regardless you won’t be ostracized anyway then there’s really no incentive for women not to sleep around at their heart’s content.

Now in terms of emotional baggage, I think inceldom shows that lack of sex also creates emotional baggage, moderate amounts of sex can also create a lot of emotional damage due to the fact that existence doesn’t stop whenever activity ceases. Our idea of self is not material but phantasmatic (I know I come across as pretentious but what I mean is that even if you don’t perform an activity or in general don’t behave in relation to who you are, you tend to judge yourself in relation to a sort of phantom of yourself that in your head follows certain principles)

I don’t think only men who duck around a lot see women as expendable. Even people who have no luck with women are prone to view them as expendable, and so do women see men in general. In our society humanity are seen as discardable because we organize all our institutions in ways in which individuality is rendered irrelevant and humanity itself as a cumbersome factor.

Finally, even though I commend non violent behavior, sex and love are inherently violent and exclusive. You dating someone committedly will inherently be exclusive to others who desire you invariably. There’s an argument to be made I think that it might be why liberals are now playing with ideas of non exclusive open relationships with no violence involved, and critical theory has many times problematized the idea of love and attraction itself pointing out its relation to the institutions that enforce patriarchal rule. So saying to women “don’t do this cause you’re hurting yourself and others!” Feels a bit like telling someone not to eat delicious food because it’s bad for their health, I mean it might be true but pleasure ultimately is a massive incentive in life, so chances are a less pleasurable life in that regard won’t be worth living for them.

Odd-Luck7658 · 2022-11-23T20:50:36+00:00

You are completely wrong. Stop worrying about N counts and improve yourself.

Odd-Luck7658 · 2022-11-25T11:15:48+00:00

Weak men can't handle an experienced woman.

mcove97 · 2022-11-08T20:03:01+00:00

Life experience gets to us all. People can become jaded by missing out too.

2022-11-15T15:51:26+00:00

Any bad experience with the opposite sex can breed resentment. Bitter divorced people are a dime a dozen.

I agree people who have zero regard for others damage themselves and others. I actually became less promiscuous when it hit me the idea men don't get attached from sex is a big fat lie - many do. I hurt some people when I didn't want more so I stopped treating sex flippantly.

But one can have a casual experience without treating others poorly. It's about respect for yourself and others. There's a world of difference between the two-year casual dating relationship I had where he knew he was moving to another city when his contract was up & took me on great dates, treated me well, & was a good friend, and people who walk into a bar and treat people like meat, which both men and women unfortunately do.

Title	Ladies, let me explain why high body counts are bad for you, okay?
Author	RatDontPanic
Upvotes	12
Comments	63
Date	November 8, 2022 2:57 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	/r/AllPillDebate
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