it often seems to me that when some criticism of somebody's character is made regarding their romantic or sexual issues, it's usually made towards a man to imply that their character is at fault. maybe they're selfish, maybe they're misogynistic, maybe they're rude, et cetera. and more often than not, it'll be a woman that jumps to this conclusion, eager to ignore all other factors.

yet, i can't help but notice: women who do this are naturally privileged, because the fact is their gender shields them from having to question themselves and their habits before they can have the success they want. they never have to rethink their character traits because, surprise surprise: you can take on any negative trait you want, there's always a man desperate enough on an app to take it all. take any random woman from, say, a certain subreddit whose name ends with "tear" for example, and turn her into a crackhead with schizophrenia: her dating pool wouldn't shrink significantly compared to that of a man. and when another man is behind this accusation, they generally tend to be a blooper/male feminist type who will bend over backwards to defend a woman doing the same thing (see /r/amitheasshole for examples.) so for this reason, i can't take anybody who says this stuff seriously. if a man said this about women, do you think his 'personality' would be good enough to attract a provider wife?