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Q4W: Are you closed to fwb, casual sex, and situationship? If so why?

October 6, 2022
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In the purple pill server someone asked the opposite question for women so I want to try to do something different here. I hope you all don't mind

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Title Q4W: Are you closed to fwb, casual sex, and situationship? If so why?
Author roseonyxa
Upvotes 4
Comments 27
Date October 6, 2022 6:05 AM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit /r/AllPillDebate
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[–]EulenWatcher 4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Sure. My husband and I are monogamous and exclusive. Plus I've figured out pretty early that I need to feel secure about a person to be intimate with them and I'm pretty squeamish, so the idea of having sex with someone I'm not exclusive with is rather disgusting. Also sex is risky. I'm not taking the risks with bad partner who doesn't want to have future with me.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for sharing I appreciate it. Do you think we can have a more intelligent conversation about hook up culture and casual sex instead of just freedom of choice? I don't believe choices exist in a vaccum like these hook up warriors believe and I think we have every right to critique hook up culture and it's ideology it's trying to sell people. I posted a while back about my theory on hook up culture but I want to repost and add more details to it. I also think the discussion should not be focused on women like how it is I am tired of hearing men can do casual sex and women can't which I think is the reason why progressive folks support hook up culture. But I personally believe men are also affected negatively and there has been data on men experiencing postcoital dysphoria. These are just my thoughts I like to hear yours.

[–]EulenWatcher 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Tbh I'm not necessarily against hook up culture for others. It's just not my cup of tea. From the other hand, I also didn't witness it much as I'm from a more traditional community. Most people I know closely haven't heavily engaged into casual scene. I do think people should be more responsible about their choices as STDs and unwanted pregnancies are still pretty common and I've heard that STDs are on the rise. They also should be aware that using casual sex as coping isn't really a great choice, just as using alcohol or weed instead of actually treating your issues.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I understand what you mean but don't you think we can analyze hook up culture on a much deeper level. I have personal folk theory of how hook up culture is product of modern economic stress and harmful cultural norms. Promiscuity in the past was different namely it's was more like polyamory rather than one time interaction like we see in solitary animals. Plus polyandry in the past existed so the women has multiple caregivers to increase the chance of survival of her kids since child mortality rate was higher back then and the women had more kids back then.

[–]EviessVeralan 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I knew from a young age i wanted to get married so i spent my time doing things to make this happen. Casual sex would have been a waste of my time.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I respect you for sticking to your values. As a man I knew I always wanted to get married I don't really understand how people feel like they need to find themselves or what ever it just sounds cringe to me.

[–]Environmental_Lie561 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

💯

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Yes I know a lot of women who do not like casual sex and only have sex in relationships

When you feel like you have met someone that makes you feel like no one else has, that makes you want to be a better person to make them proud, it’s love, it’s the way you can do the most boring thing but it’s fun as they are there, that even when you are angry at them you still want them to be happy

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I thought guys like me only thought that But I am like this with my close friends too.

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I am like that with my close friends too, but it’s different with my husband it’s hard to explain or put into words.

He is one of my two soul mates

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

He is a lucky man for sure

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

And I’m a very lucky woman

[–]lizzstomania 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

closed to all of the above because I don’t want to be that intimate with someone who I’m not in love with/who loves me. I don’t see the point in having sex just to have sex. I don’t want to feel like my body is worth sex but my personality is not worth dating. + I don’t want diseases from someone just for sex without love.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've always been too goal oriented for anything like FWB. I've broken up with a guy I liked when it became obvious (to both of us) that our relationship had no future. To me, the point of dating was always to find my life partner.

And I worried about hormones from sex clouding my judgement.

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy Link

I am not closed to the idea as I am married

I did have a fwb on and off for 15 years

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy Link

So would you go back to an fwb if you got divorced?

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

Not that one no.

But possibly one if I was single and I met someone that was a good fit it would be a possibility

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Well there goes my faith in romance in youth again 😅

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Youth? I’m 40 so nothing youthful about me these days

If I was to find myself single I would not want a partner right now I have a young child, blended families are hard and I wouldn’t do it again.

But I also really like sex, so a fwb would probably be a good fit

[–]no_bling_just_dingWhitePill (self aware MSTOW) 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

note: male

yes i think sex is something intimate for me not something i'd do with just about anybody at least not for my age

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I was in something like situationship with a guy just few months ago.I was using it as opportunity just to meet or be close to him because I had crush on him.

Was there any hope for this turning into something else?Yes but I wasn't expecting something.Then later found out,he asked out another girl so I stopped lol.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am sorry to hear that, that sounds rough. I hope you feel better

[–]Best_Illustrator_137 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

I’m okay if it’s fwb but if we’re in a monogamous relationship that sh*t shouldn’t even be a question.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Are you a man or woman?

[–]Best_Illustrator_137 -1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

No but can’t I still post?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This is a question for women

[–]Best_Illustrator_137 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

I’m a tranny then. There problem solved.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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