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q4w: is it your fault you chose men that didnt want to marry you or is it your fault bc you arent marriage material?

October 31, 2022
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Are choosing the wrong men and complaining? Or are you just not worth being committed to?

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Title q4w: is it your fault you chose men that didnt want to marry you or is it your fault bc you arent marriage material?
Author aytubdotcom
Upvotes 1
Comments 32
Date October 31, 2022 2:33 PM UTC (1 month ago)
Subreddit /r/AllPillDebate
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[–]RazhL 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

All these loaded genderbiased questions.
What happened to actual pill debate

[–]luliloo 5 points6 points  (14 children) | Copy Link

It’s my fault I dated average men I didn’t want to marry in the end.

[–]aytubdotcom[S] -1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Did any average man propose to you though? If not, do you think that below average men and/or above average men want to marry you?

[–]luliloo 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

We talked about marriage but no proposal. We would break up before then. And yes I’m sure lots of guys would want to marry me.

[–]aytubdotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

No average man has proposd, yet in your mind averqge men will propose? How did you conclude this? Thank you for admitting it is your fault.

[–]luliloo 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I have no data to back up my claims.

I have enough self awareness to break it off before it would get to that point. I don’t understand people who can let it get so far (engaged, wedding planning, etc) if they still have doubts.

I just know we talked about marriage from the very beginning and more often, I am the one who wants to break up.

[–]RatDontPanicAverage Unfrustrated Chump 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

What exactly makes you above average?

[–]luliloo 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

I am too humble to say 🙏😇

[–]RatDontPanicAverage Unfrustrated Chump 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

Hmmph. Sounds like those arrogant redpill men who keep self inflating themselves.

[–]luliloo 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

It’s fun, more people should do it 🙂

[–]EviessVeralan 7 points8 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

If women are responsible for the men they date mistreating them then men are responsible for marrying women who divorce them.

[–]FastBananaViral 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am fine with that. I am of the view, if you fuck an asshole you are also an asshole

[–]aytubdotcom[S] 1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

If women are responsible for the men they date

If women arent responsible for the men they choose to date, then who is responsible for you?

[–]EviessVeralan 1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I never said women arent responsible. I just said that men are also responsible for their bad decisions as well.

[–]aytubdotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

The post is about women and the decisions you make.

[–]EviessVeralan 1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Yes but a large subsection of the RP crowd tends to hold the idea that women should be held responsible not men. If your view about responsibility is consistent than i dont disagree.

[–]SilentFroggy 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So true. I don’t see how men can’t catch red flags. I guess they’re just to blind from all the attention.

[–]EulenWatcher 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've married the only man I've ever gone on a date with. Generally it's usually a mix of both - sometimes people choose wrongly, sometimes they're bad partners themselves. Often it isn't anyone's fault and partners just aren't compatible and it took them some time to figure it out.

[–]Papi_2099 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lol, it's the Framing of the question for me 🤣

[–]zoloftabuser 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bold of you to assume they’d ever hold themselves accountable.

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 0 points1 point  (22 children) | Copy Link

Are choosing the wrong men and complaining? Or are you just not worth being committed to?

I am not worth being committed to even though I desire marriage lol .

[–]aytubdotcom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am not worth being committed

thanks for the honesty

[–]Lost-Zebra6453 0 points1 point  (20 children) | Copy Link

Every comment you make it’s clear you have no self esteem. I hope you build some and stop giving these lonely and bitter men fuel to continue to think lowly of women in general

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Every comment you make it’s clear you have no self esteem.

This is quite shaming language and you are not coming to right conclusion.

I am just being honest.

[–]Lost-Zebra6453 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I’ve read your comments in your history it is full of low self esteem and lack of respect for yourself and other women. I can link them if you like lol but it probably won’t help. I seriously hope you find love for yourself and that you seek help

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ok thanks for concern but I am fine

[–]FastBananaViral 0 points1 point  (14 children) | Copy Link

If you don’t want men to think lowly of you then do things that won’t make them think that

[–]Lost-Zebra6453 1 point2 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

I honestly don’t care what ‘men’ as a collective think anymore- only what my partner thinks.

I also though recognise the privilege I have had in my dating life and life in general

[–]FastBananaViral 0 points1 point  (12 children) | Copy Link

You said you don’t care but in the previous comment you said to “stop giving these lonely and bitter men fuel to continue to think lowly of women in general”

Why would you write that if you don’t care?

Ok congratulations on your privilege in your dating life- from a 30 year old kissless virgin male that has never been on a date

[–]RatDontPanicAverage Unfrustrated Chump 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Or maybe the men who think like that should stop being the monsters that they hate?

[–]Lost-Zebra6453 -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes. But she could still Work on her self esteem, most her comments really are self depreciating even if she doesn’t realise it

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think part of dating especially when your young is working out what sort of person you want, and what sort of partner you aim to be.

Also what seems to be missed so much on questions like this is chemistry.

I have had a fair few proposals, married 2, the first one was a bad choice though I got my oldest two children through it.

You won’t know if someone is right for you unless you date them and get to know them, it’s not a failure if it doesn’t end up being right

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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