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q4w: What satisfaction do women get out of a 2 year + long term relationships that keep ending?

October 17, 2022
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I see nearly every women wants a long term relationship. And, likely, she will be entering into her 3rd, 4th, or 5th "ltr", why doesn't it make sense to women that they have just wasted years of their lives with nothing to show for it? If a 20 yo has two 5 year "ltr's", she will be 30 by the end of the secong ltr. And she has nothing to show for it. Or, even worse, she would be raising a child in a broken home.

Why do women do this? How does it make any sense?

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Title q4w: What satisfaction do women get out of a 2 year + long term relationships that keep ending?
Author _Duriel_1000_
Upvotes 2
Comments 19
Date October 17, 2022 6:35 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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[–]SwimmingTheme3736 7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Why does she have nothing to show?

A relationship ending doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it’s rubs it’s course but was good while it lasted, you might of done some really cool stuff traveled to new places

Life experiences are what you do it for

[–]Liberated_Asexual 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A lot of people have been indoctrinated into this idea that humans are meant for lifelong monogamy, and anything that deviates from that is simply failure.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] -3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why does she have nothing to show?

Because she didnt do anything worthwhile? A 2 year relationship with people going to eat and experinces with one another isn't showing anything more than a single person going out to eat and doing things as well.

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s such a strange way to look at it.

How many long term relationships have you had? Not just romantic but friendships

Have they not changed you in any way? Have they not brought new things into your life? Made you see things in different ways? Made you realise things about yourself? Encouraged you to push yourself further? Given you the confidence to go for something you wanted? Maybe learn something new? Go for that dream job

[–]EviessVeralan 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Some people have goals such as marriage and kids. Hopping from ltr to ltr is a waste of time for both men and women in this situation.

[–]Kappador66 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Male, but I'll answer anyway

Humans are serially monogamous. It is the natural state of humans to have sexual relationships that last for a couple years and then end. Lifelong marriage is much less natural and thus it also so unsuccessful.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Humans are serially monogamous.

Okay. Well, the definition of monogamy seems to vary. definition- involving marriage to one person at a time.

Then it adds having a sexual relationship with only one partner at a time.

Where do you get that "Humans are serially monogamous." Is that a statistic somewhere? Or your personal observation? Or research?

It is the natural state of humans to have sexual relationships that last for a couple years and then end.

Where are you getting this from? Beyond two years is unnatural? ONS are unnatural?

Lifelong marriage is much less natural and thus it also so unsuccessful.

What is your definition of a successful marriage?

[–]pikecat 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Humans natural predisposition is to serial monogamy. There is research on it, read it long ago, so don't know where.

There's a thing known as the 7 year itch. It's the natural, average length before subconscious things start making people reject each other. Lifelong monogamy is good for your life in society and wealth building.

People go against their natural instincts all of the time, because we're smart. Some people live out their feelings, others live out their thinking. The latter tend to be more successful in modern society. That's the incentive to lifelong monogamy.

[–]h1shman 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro you’re on Reddit asking people why they waste their time. Think about that for a second.

[–]Necessary-Worry1923 4 points5 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

50% of American marriages end in divorce which mean the other 50% are "successful", however you interpret that.

Kids grow up in a safe nuclear family that provides economic stability and funds college education leading to empowered kids with higher incomes.

Obvious detractors will always cite dead bedrooms and people who should gave divorced but could not afford to. Okay then open up the marriage like Will Smith and get your cake and get to eat it too.

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2010/01/19/women-men-and-the-new-economics-of-marriage/

Part of the reason for the superior gains of married adults is compositional in nature. Marriage rates have declined for all adults since 1970 and gone down most sharply for the least educated men and women. As a result, those with more education are far more likely than those with less education to be married, a gap that has widened since 1970. Because higher education tends to lead to higher earnings, these compositional changes have bolstered the economic gains from being married for both men and women.

[–]Liberated_Asexual 1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

This sounds like a pretty bad misinterpretation of the Will Smith ordeal. Will Smith just simply was made out to be a bitch by his wife who basically said fuck you I'm going to cheat in you whenever you want, and you're simply just going to have to accept it.

Will willingly complied.

[–]ElectricBugs -1 points0 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

What an absolutely dumb take.

Jada did not make anything happen. Will and her can make their own decisions and it is hilarious that men never see that he could just walk away if he wanted to do so. HE is making decisions on his own and because he has made an unpopular decision you just assume it's because she made him. lol

[–]Liberated_Asexual -2 points-1 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, he definitely needed to publicly humiliate himself like he did, ahahaha

[–]ElectricBugs -1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Lol. I mean it was embarrassing for him to act like that, which is a choice he made. There were many other ways he could have handled it

[–]RatDontPanicAverage Unfrustrated Chump 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Dude, you're hearing only half the media-fed story. Chris made fun of her alopecia before that awards show. He's been digging into her about that for a while.

[–]ElectricBugs 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Better to try relationships and fail than to never try and be successful at casual sex.

[–]LiftSushiDallas 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm confused. Did someone tell you every woman's goal is a 50 year marriage with kids?

I like to be in LTR's for as long as we are both happy. My current one is 3.5 years and I'm still content. If it ends tomorrow, that's fine too.

I don't want marriage or kids, ever. And I don't even want cohabitation (so my man and I do not live together).

Sure, some women would love marriage and kids and are heartbroken that their LTR's keep ending but there are many of us who just want to be with someone compatible for as long as it lasts.

As for "nothing to show for it," that's an odd phrasing. Why are we obliged to show anyone anything or prove anything?

I'm into fitness and have a very lean physique but I won't have the same physique I do now at 70. Does that mean having a slim, lean, bikini body NOW isn't worth it because it won't last until my death? Absolutely not.

My focus is on being content. I don't have to live my life per someone else's LifeScript of what a woman should want.

[–]_Duriel_1000_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm confused. Did someone tell you every woman's goal is a 50 year marriage with kids?

No. Most women want to ride the cc.

[–]Glad-Discount-4761 -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sometimes relationship just fails.Either man wants or leave you.We are not useful like man,we are already biologically built for pump and dump so..we have no choice,just to accept it.It depends on woman how she perceived relationship.

I was in relationship with my ex and it ended b mecause he wanted kids and I couldn't give him.Only satisfaction I have is good times with him.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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