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The majority of the men who complain about 'loneliness' and lack of success in dating should simply stop searching for love and focus on something else.

Glum-Safety-7548
January 3, 2023
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I say this as someone who has struggled with these questions for the past six months. I have read so many posts and comments from these men until this point that I can confidently say I understand how they think and feel. I have likewise fallen prey to the same despair they are feeling. So know that what I am about to say is backed by both personal experience and careful consideration of the stories of others.

I genuinely believe a lot of the men out there who are struggling to get someone interested in them should consider celibacy as a lifestyle. This applies even more if they believe they can't find a mate because of something they can't change easily. Fixating and obsessing over something you wish you could change but can't will only bring you sorrow and trouble. This is where the second part of my message comes in: you should focus on something else. Find something else to devote yourself to. Whether it be helping the poor, writing stories or cooking exquisite dishes, you ought to focus on something else because the energy you're using to obsess over your failures in dating could be spent on something more productive.

Mind over body, friends. Don't let your bodily urges control who you are.

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Title The majority of the men who complain about 'loneliness' and lack of success in dating should simply stop searching for love and focus on something else.
Author Glum-Safety-7548
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Date January 3, 2023 9:51 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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The majority of the men who complain about 'loneliness' and lack of success in dating should simply stop searching for love and focus on something else.

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January 3, 2023
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[–]zastale 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Many already want to do so. The problem is biology telling you to go find something to fuck, constantly. Could you imagine the progress mankind would’ve made had men not spent so much time worrying about pleasing/wooing women? Imagine if every man was like Isaac Newton focused on his purpose, but not to the extent that he forgoes reproducing.

It’s the issue of a starving man: he can only think about food. It’s literally a part of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs; sure, Maslow wasn’t some omnipotent being that knows it all, but people who aren’t familiar with his concept still know the hole of intimacy in their lives.

I honestly found it difficult in university to focus on my studies because my brain would randomly say “go find a girl to fuck” and distract me. If there was a way to shut off the “I need a girl” part of the brain without the severe symptoms of chemical castration, I genuinely think many men would do it.

[–]revente 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Could you imagine the progress mankind would’ve made had men not spent so much time worrying about pleasing/wooing women? Imagine if every man was like Isaac Newton focused on his purpose, but not to the extent that he forgoes reproducing.

It would be the exact opposite. They'd just chill and drink beer all day long.

[–]Last-Post2085 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If there was a way to shut off the “I need a girl” part of the brain without the severe symptoms of chemical castration

There is a short term fix. It's called fapping. But it only lasts a day usually.

[–]Fit-Faithlessness149 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If a sizable enough portion of men are not getting their needs met then this is a societal problem. The only people that will endeavor to fix this problem of the people who feel frustration and pain from the problem. If it becomes big enough it will become a political driving force. It may lead to societal change or it may lead to societal violence. Being able to have loving relationships gives you a buy-in into society. Without that you are essentially external of society and thus have no use for society and are more likely to work towards the destruction of that society.

[–]HateSpeechFanBoy 2 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

I agree partially but I really think those men should embrace the dark side of the force and embrace anger and hatred.

[–]Antisocial_NihilistRedPill 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That's something a lot of us already do, but biology (and society) constantly nags at us telling us we are genetic failures if we cannot find a mate and have offspring.

[–]Last-Post2085 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

but biology (and society) constantly nags at us telling us we are genetic failures if we cannot find a mate and have offspring.

Who cares what they think though? Life doesn't have any particular meaning. Not everyone will get to reproduce anyway and that has been the same since the dawn of humanity. Also, what about gay people? Do they get biology nagging at them to have offspring? Obviously they cant.

[–]revente 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Except that it's not their rational though that wants women, but one of the strongest drives shared among all living beings.

[–]Best_Illustrator_137 4 points5 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Lol what..? Everyone’s a slave to their biology and men aren’t an exception..saying “just be celibate” is the most loser thing you could tell a man..improving himself so those things come more naturally (not to be confused with doing it to get women) but making yourself better will lead to more opportunities..everyone wants companionship and relationships..telling someone to just ignore half the population is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read on this sub..improve your odds not go “black pill”

[–]FortniteAbobusWhitePill 2 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

Blackpill doesn't force celibacy. Chad can be blackpilled too.

[–]Best_Illustrator_137 1 point2 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

Being celibate because you can’t get women is blackpilled and in a sense the same as incels except you don’t get mad at the whole of women for your problems but turn into a recluse who ignores half of the population…does that seem like a healthy coping mechanism for a human to you..?

[–]FortniteAbobusWhitePill 1 point2 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Being celibate because you can’t get women is blackpilled

It's called incelibacy, not "blackpilled". Read what blackpill is.

[–]Best_Illustrator_137 -1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Bro giving up on women completely and relationships is black pilled and being celibate not by choice and then giving up is the definition of BP…just say you wanna remain a loser and move on..if you wanna be celibate by choice that’s your perogotive but if you’re forced to become celibate and just stop interacting with women all together than that’s you accepting being a loser ie blackpill.

[–]Glum-Safety-7548[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

So monks and lay celibate people are virgin incel losers then?

[–]Best_Illustrator_137 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

No because they have a reason to do it and it’s pretty big in their lives..comparing a monk to a person who simply gives up on the thought of even doing something as basic as interacting with women is hilarious and you should know better for even asking.

[–]Glum-Safety-7548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I mean, if you've found out that you are not meant for the married life in this way, then it's just the way things are.

[–]FortniteAbobusWhitePill 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

giving up on women completely and relationships is black pilled

Don't be retarded, read the definition of blackpill.

[–]Best_Illustrator_137 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why don’t you enlighten me then since you seem to be the dictionary don..😂🙄

[–]FortniteAbobusWhitePill 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Google information for you - $59 + tax / per search query

[–]FortniteAbobusWhitePill 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

genuinely

Hans, get ze gas

[–]OsazeBacchus 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dunno why they're booing you, you're right there are better things to spend energy on than women who find you unattractive

[–]Acearl 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

You make it sound so easy. But only escorts selling the GFE can compare to the joy a woman can create to me and other men.

I focus on other things because they are interesting to me. But only a single woman ever wanted to hear me talk about them.

So many adult men have a desire to provide and protect. And frequently have nothing to do that with. This lack of fulfilment is what frequently causes depression.

Women have such high selection pressure on choosing partners, it makes a vast majority of men unsuitable for them. I gave up trying to "fix" myself accepting there is nothing I could do to match the qualities they want.

I didnt make the rules. I just follow them. I have considered finding a wife in Africa or the East. Where I might have better chances

[–]Glum-Safety-7548[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

just workout bro /s

[–]Acearl 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I gained 30 lb of muscle in 2 years

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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