When a woman asks you out on a first date at her place, is it wrong to expect sex?

zastale · 2023-02-24T10:38:41+00:00

No. A fair amount of women will say “don’t expect anything” for plausible deniability, and you’re expected to play along when it’s really an invite for you to escalate at some point. There is a chance that nothing really does happen, so don’t be too forceful. Thirdly, some are very outright and aren’t afraid to make the first move.

Wirlix00 · 2023-02-24T11:24:59+00:00

You can already expect sex. She already finds you attractive.

TaxNegative161 · 2023-02-24T10:54:28+00:00

Yes. I would absolutely prepare for sex, but 'she invited me to her place on the first date guys!' isn't a defence I'd like to try on in court.

KirthWGersen · 2023-02-24T12:28:54+00:00

Never expect it. Never feel entitled to it. That takes all the fun out of it.

But in my experience, under those circumstances, it is 90% certain she will be hoping to have sex, so all you have to do is not say or do something outrageously stupid and you are in.

Eyesofmalice · 2023-02-24T14:11:17+00:00

Well I wouldn’t know really. But I do think that such mindset won’t allow you to see wether you really like the other person or not.

ManWazo · 2023-02-24T23:12:23+00:00

You can expect it, but it might not happen. If you can't handle a no, don't go on dates.

RatDontPanic · 2023-02-25T03:35:36+00:00

Yes.

Nihi1986 · 2023-02-25T08:18:50+00:00

Of course not, just be aware that if she doesn't want sex doesn't mean she won't want it the next date and be respectful all the time, make her feel comfortable regardless if you get sex or not.

Expecting sex is perfectly fine as long as you can manage dissapointment and you don't put too much pressure on that. If you get sex, great, if you don't, you will probably be luckier next time, though you are most likely getting it.

FortniteAbobus · 2023-02-25T12:10:55+00:00

Where is the pill?

sebasTLCQG · 2023-02-26T13:21:07+00:00

You should at least expect some kissing, + Anal or a Bl***** if she aint giving up the p****.

If it´s just kissing you can do it anywhere so yeah, she invites you to her place, it´ll be more than Netflix and Chill, you can likely sleep together and have some night fun.

Rook_Cross · 2023-02-24T15:11:54+00:00

LOL, yes it's wrong. Never expect, don't ruin things with expectations, only in your mind. People shouldn't have sex outside of marriage and certainly not on first dates when they don't know if this person is carrying any STDs.

EviessVeralan · 2023-02-25T01:10:14+00:00

Honestly youre better off not expecting it but being prepared just in case. This way if it does happen, awesome. If sex doesnt happen, you wont be let down.

Title	When a woman asks you out on a first date at her place, is it wrong to expect sex?
Author	Libah05
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Date	February 24, 2023 10:06 AM UTC (1 month ago)
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