Women are attracted to men that they respect (in one form or another)

Firstly, let me preface my post by stating that I (obviously from the title) don't believe in the claim by many men in here that basically the only thing women really care about in a guy are things tied to genetics like appearance, bone structure, jaw, height, ethnicity, etc. Now are there certain elements of truth to it? Absolutely. A guy like Chris Hemsworth is going to attract more women by virtue of his appearance and height than some average Joe, and that's just a fact. But there are literally billions....let me repeat, billions of women in the world. And yes, some of them are too young or too old to be considered in the dating sub-sphere, but even after these considerations, there are still hundreds of millions of women in a man's dating pool. So why do some men struggle to even get one date?* (asterisk because I'll address this in paragraph 3)

One thing that I've realized is that I also reject many men's claims about only looks mattering because I have seen in my own life my friends that are either short, not conventionally attractive, balding, overweight, etc. still be able to date women. This is in direct contrast to a lot of the claims thrown around in this sub that it's apparently over for you as a man if you don't have A, B, and C traits. But yet a wide variety and the vast majority of men do have decent dating lives. Maybe they don't get to hook up with the hottest chicks every day, but they still get to experience love, compassion, and intimacy.

Now to address the question I posed earlier (So why do some men struggle to even get one date?). Normally, one shouldn't be bothered over their inability to get a date. Except for the fact that women only caring about appearance/height isn't true...and so naturally, that means women DO indeed appreciate a wide variety of traits in men. Maybe that guy is ugly but he's funny, maybe he's fat but he's super nice and makes you feel special, maybe he's balding but he's well-educated and ambitious, maybe he's poor but he's confident and responsible.

Unlike men who, for the most part, just go for women that they find attractive, women go for men that they can *respect* in one form or another. So if you are unable to go on a date with a women, this essentially means that out of hundreds of millions of women, not ONE could find anything redeemable or respectable about you. You had so many chances, so many avenues, so many ways that you could have built yourself up....and you managed to do nothing. I think that's exactly why it feels *so bad* to be a dateless virgin. It's not even about the sex, it's really about the validation. In fact, if you are unattractive and short or whatever and women STILL want to date you, this is an even bigger compliment because it means you must be doing damn good at life. You're probably funny, confident, successful, etc.

So in summation, I do wish women were only into "Chads". I wish women were shallow like us men and only cared about looks. But unfortunately, they value a wide variety of things in their partner, which means if you struggle to date/get laid, you are being shut out of the future gene pool and this functions as a modern form of Darwinism. And women operate it.

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Edit: btw PurplePill subreddit absolutely sucks, I couldn't post this for some reason??? Despite following all the subreddit rules, and mods are totally unresponsive