First,I will concern the article
Last year, I was sitting butt naked in a German sauna with various men of various ages and sizes. I was at my local gym; that evening the swimming pool was inaccessible as there were women taking aqua aerobics classes there.
One man complained about this as we sat in the sauna.
He mocked the women, trying to draw chuckles from us. He said they needed to be assisted in moving their asses. He insinuated they were infants, or physically disabled and in need of guided care. I saw them as mothers and women with weight problems taking one damn hour for themselves to work on their health. They deserved those classes, that space in the pool, and that self-care.
I looked over at the man (carefully, because I didn’t want to look like I was staring in a sauna and cause people to get the wrong idea) and saw he was overweight, I had to bite my tongue to not blurt out: “Hey you look like you need such a class, buddy!”
Then I realized: most of the time I’ve heard a woman being criticized or shamed about her weight, it’s nearly always been a man doing it. And not only that, he’s been overweight himself or struggling with this issue.
Psychologists describe ‘projection’ as one person projecting their feelings, desires and opinions onto others as a defense mechanism.
Within a patriarchy, mediocre men project on women they encounter.
Fast forward to a few months ago, I announced I was pregnant to a relative of my partner. He chimes in almost immediately with “Ha ha, how are you going to manage with that weight in the summer time?!”
He may have seen it as a friendly dig, but I saw it as not only a limp fisted attempt at humor doused in misogyny. But also, I saw he was actually speaking about himself. I wanted to ask him how he manages with his huge beer belly in the summer heat, but settled for cutting off contact.
I’ve been gifted with being skinny all my life. Even pregnant I resemble a watermelon thief with my skinny arms and swollen belly. I’ve had zero issues with any weight I’ve gained; every kilo is good for my baby.
First she go on a babbling rant about a men who make a (really offensive) joke.Note how in her article,she never said to him that it is offensive,and she acknowledge that he may seen it as a joke,but SOMEHOW she gone from that to the conclusion that men only criticized women because they are bad themselves.
She ended it by wishing for them(fat men) to have a heart attack
I’ve also grown up watching my mother and other people I love struggling with their weight, counting calories, fretting about what people think, taking abuse and being shamed for something that they feel helpless about. And usually by men who themselves looked like they were not many years away from heart attack.
Muh evolution,Muh science (sexist standard):
Why are women shamed by fat men for having weight? It's projection. Women naturally have bodies that hold more fat, which makes sense in terms of evolution. The male body is more muscular and from an evolutionary perspective isn’t supposed to be fat.
More sexist trope:
The funny thing is, women aren’t the gender that actually acts slutty or loose.
Men pay for sex; they need it more than women.
Men want sex so bad they spike women‘s drinks and recently have even started injecting victims in nightclubs.
Men harass and catcall women on the street.
They sexually assault and rape girls and women regardless of age, clothing, or circumstance. Men make laws to force women to cover up because they can’t control themselves.
Men have religions that cater to their sexual needs, giving him access to a wife, making it her duty to have sex and to have his babies.
She is often bound by chastity, yet he is free to be the real slut. How many women have gone their whole lives without having an orgasm?
Men strive to have sex, to be desirable. This is for most women, a given. We are mostly desired, pursued and offered sex.
Who are the real sluts if men are always doing the pursuing?
Regardless of what country or which time in history, the patriarchy is unable to escape one cold, hard, fact: a man will never have the intrinsic biological value a girl or woman naturally has. She is not loose or promiscuous, he is.
The article end with a conspiracy theory (Yes,the patriarchy is alway watching,that is why you are allowed to make a website that ban all men and spreading open bigotry without problem)
The patriarchy thrives on lies and projections. Once you wake up to it you start to see it everywhere. And only then you can start the work of dismantling it.
"Women is valueable by birthright":
Imagine hobbling someone, then beating them in a race just to turn around and tell them you won because you are inherently superior.
Patriarchy is a lie that is so weak that it needs centuries of control, violence and exclusion uphold and enforce it. It needs constant justification, Which is why anytime a woman has power or confidence men go absolutely nuts to take her down.
The best thing women can do is realize the value that is theirs by birthright. Men rigged the game in their favor from top to bottom, and still women rise. But just be aware because they will continue to find ways to stop us from fully knowing and understanding this. When you raise an animal in a cage it doesn't grow as large. Men will measure you in your cage and tell you that is as big as you can get. Don't listen to them! [3 likes]
And also,note how their definition of "the patriarchy" changed every time,the last time it was men saying that they will succeed because they are inheritantly superior,and now it is men telling women they succeed because THEY are superior?
Ok now to reddit.
-Comment calling to "breed out the stupid" ,support racist social darwinism:
We are half the global population and do not have equal say in what happens to our bodies, yet the WHOLE world was birthed by us and with great pain.
Yet the incels and shitwits show us how we need to take Darwin seriously and breed out the stupid. [+148] (and also,what are she talking about,there are no country in the world where women didnt have the right to vote) -Women "created food":
And somehow women are the weakest sex, somehow women are subhumans and lesser people than men. Women literally create life and create food to feed the lifes they have created, but women are subhumans, worse than men in any way and should submit to them, uh-huh 🤦🤦 [+27]
-Support discrimination against fat people:
That's why I never give fat dudes a chance. They would never date you if the shoe is on the other foot. [+139]
-Comment CALLING FOR A CURFEW OF MEN upvoted in the hundred,also a bunch of sexist trope (men only want to rape women)
Patriarchal societies are run by man-children who preach about accountability but only when it suits them. You should see how many men agree with a mandatory curfew for women for their own so called safety but would call you a tyrant if you suggested the same thing for men. Personally, I believe when it comes to curfews men should have one. Who makes the streets unsafe for women and children? Men. so why must their targets adapt?
Heaps of men want rape to be legal as long as the man didn't violently beat her so that victims won't get killed afterwards but would call the death penalty for proven rapists too harsh and they need to be rehabilitated instead.
Men are offended by pink taxies for women only, anti-rape trousers designed by women for women because " what about men ?? ! "
Even women that aren't their wives or relatives men want to have control over, one dude thought he was being the Alpha by recording women in their bikini's on the beach berating them saying they shouldn't wear micro bikini's in front of children. The dude got fired when the video went viral but this is a small example of what men would do if they have free reign over a womans existence.
Men are not your allies and women need to stop mistreating other women to be liked by men because if men had their way then your future wouldn't go beyond the kitchen. [+180]