Shocking post about misandrist mother who treat the daughter differently than sons !

First of all, I have always encouraged and advocated for healthy and close mother\daughter relationships, and have never discouraged neither my wife or daughter from each other.

But I've been noticing things for years now, and after beating around the bush for such a long time, I decided to bring it up to my wife. For maybe around three years now, she's been treating my daughter way differently than our sons, whether it be about fairly innocuous things like serving her first at mealtimes or by hugging her goodnight but not our sons. On birthdays and christmas, my wife gets our daughter enough presents to nearly send us into bankruptcy, but refuses to allow me to do the same with the boys.

There have been times where our sons come up to her, asking for her to come and see a picture one of them drew or a toy they'd discovered under the couch and my wife will ignore them until they give up. My daughter will come up, asking for her to play, and my wife agrees immediately. I've tried to pick up the slack with our sons, while still spending time with our daughter, but my wife accuses me of favoritism.

Two days ago, my oldest son came up to me and asked why 'mommy didn't love us anymore ' and that was the last straw. After they went to bed, I asked my wife to come and sit down with me and said that I love she had a great relationship with our daughter, but that she barely pays any attention to our sons and that it was putting a strain on the whole family.

She said that I was being ridiculous and nitpicking, that there was no such thing going on, and after accusing me, once again, of favoritism, she made me sleep on the couch.

We've been playing nice for the kids' sake, but I still see how special she treats out daughter and how horribly she treats our sons while also wondering if I'm at fault for any of this and if I went about it the wrong way.

Any input is welcome.

UPDATE

Since my wife and I are both working at home, I took the opportunity, when the kids went downstairs to play, to broach the subject again. I told her about our sons had been feeling, and that this could and would be severely damaging towards how they might function as adults. I also said that not only is she hurting them, but she's damaging our daughter as well with the favoritism and that I was not going to be as passive as I was a few days ago.

She replied that I was the one favoring the boys and that I did not nearly spend enough time with our daughter. I replied that I had just spent an hour painting her nails yesterday, and that she was deflecting. She asked me if I wanted a divorce, because that's where we were headed if I kept coming at her with 'baseless accusations '.

I told her about my previous post, and that there had been a number of comments that had brought up great points regarding not only her, but myself, and that there was a chance to rectify what had been done. I asked if she maybe wanted to see the comments, but she refused, repeating her threat again.

Eventually, she stormed off, and I went back downstairs with the kids to have a talk with them. I pulled my daughter aside and asked if she had maybe noticed her mom possibly acting mean or ignoring her brothers, and she said yes. I asked how she felt about it, and she replied that she didn't like it. We talked for a few more minutes before I asked if she could maybe start playing with her brothers a little bit more, and she readily agreed. I told her that it wasn't her fault that these things were happening, too.

Then, I went to my sons and asked about their feelings and such. My oldest son said, "I know mommy loves me, but I don't think she loves me as much as she loves (his sister)" I said that it wasn't true, but that it was okay to feel what he was feeling and that it was his right. I also tried to talk with my youngest, but he didn't understand half of what I was trying to say.

I repeated to them at the end of the conversation that it's not their fault.

My Wife is now effectively ignoring me, even with my attempts to get her to talk with the children so that she could say how they felt.