We have three kids. It's not been going great. Nothing outrageous, we all love our kids, no domestic violence, no nothing except cold hatred between the two adults. Very little display of affection, we last had sex a year ago. I tried, but you can only try a certain amount of times until the rejection gets to you.

Three weeks ago my wife said we need to think about separation. I took that as a final warning that now I have to try and save our marriage. Not so. She already got a boyfriend. So I discovered today. And this marriage is literally ending now, because I am not accepting her back after she's fucked around (not that she is going to ask me to).

So what now? We own our home 50/50, it's not fully paid. Three children, and I don't know what to do. All I know is I can't accept her in our marital bed anymore after learning about all this. I will have to move out or kick her out.

What do I do? She says we live together until divorce is final. I think that's torture. And our kids? I'm 51, she's 42, our kids are 12, 8 and 6.