Does the pain ever randomly come back and hit you like a ton of bricks?

dray1214 · 2019-07-16T20:13:25+00:00

It's a person that you loved more than any other person in the world for a long period of time... you have shared many intiment and personal experiences together.. she was your rock... believe me when I tell you this, it never goes away. Even when you genuinely don't like that person anymore/ who they've become, you're still going to get flooded with emotions and memories of them, and unfortunately, it's only the good memories that you remember. It just shows how much you loved her, and sadly, she didn't feel the same anymore. It's honestly just torture, but a part of life sometimes. I feel your pain

sleeze02 · 2019-07-16T19:16:11+00:00

Yes it sometimes does

holgathunder · 2019-07-16T19:35:33+00:00

Yup. Always pops up out of the blue

SmokyD7 · 2019-07-16T19:42:50+00:00

It's the new normal.

2019-07-16T23:23:54+00:00

Yup, been 14 months and I still question my decision. A dead bedroom and ungrateful stepkids are no way for a man to live his life though.

warrior_up · 2019-07-16T19:37:44+00:00

Yea. it's been weird one step forward two steps back for me since this time last week.

BobQuasit · 2019-07-16T20:34:12+00:00

Yeah. I didn't love my ex, but sometimes my ring finger still feels weirdly empty.

ChiefWarBear · 2019-07-16T23:30:45+00:00

I'm about a year out and it's still about every other hour or so that I'm okay with leaving or I'm in a panic to get my family back together regardless of what she did to me.

Every time I want to get back together I ask myself, "Do you really want to go back to that?" And the answer is always "NO".

hairy_russian · 2019-07-17T03:33:34+00:00

Yes, get a therapist.

Beastmodexxlsixty9 · 2019-07-17T04:43:07+00:00

It's been almost 11 years for me and I'm with someone else and im very happy but I still sometimes dream about her. We're not together anymore even in the dreams lol.

I see my ex every week when I pick up our son. The sting is gone and I'm better off without her.

theoracleofosiris · 2019-07-17T05:50:59+00:00

It’ll take years. You’ll never be the same. Just be kind to yourself.

MarcusTheo · 2019-07-16T20:06:32+00:00

Comes in waves, buddy. Crashes down on you when you least expect it

stumpjumper_steve · 2019-07-17T02:22:45+00:00

It does, so buy a stripper the same bottle and live on! No really... I know what you mean.

500dollarsinprizes · 2019-07-17T09:39:17+00:00

That compassion came back only once, when I saw pictures of her in an MRI machine. But she fought hard to be without me, so I enjoy the peace.

CrunchyNutFruit · 2019-07-17T10:44:10+00:00

I'm mostly greatful for my divorce. But every once in a while a good memory plays through and I miss her. It's a shame I lived with so few good memories and an assload of bad ones.

2019-07-18T04:48:56+00:00

I feel nothing for her at this point except for pangs of spite and contempt.

bermudezeg · 2019-07-18T10:51:51+00:00

I feel your pain. The years you were committed ending in a blink of a second and just to think of it was all a waste. But life lessons were learned, well hopefully.

Title	Does the pain ever randomly come back and hit you like a ton of bricks?
Author	skipness_
Upvotes	27
Comments	27
Date	July 16, 2019 7:02 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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