Have been separated from my soon to be ex for 3 1/2 months and have been on the receiving end of her anger for far longer. She filed an exparte order to maintain the status quo. She has refused to get a job and blew through our savings. The order requirements to pay all the household bills for a house I dont live at. I make about $50 more than that. Went to court today to fight it and was told that I am not responsible for my bills but they are upholding the order for hers. The judge would hear nothing from my attorney or me. Had to sign. We have 50/50 custody right now. How am I supposed to start moving forward when she gets two weeks to herself every month to not work, drink, sleep around and rub my face in it. I feel like the system failed me. I dont know where to go from here but something needs to change with how they look at things. I will never stop fighting but I am getting tired.