Look, I get it - we are/were all pissed and hurt and angry. And we can't always keep our temper or not act out. But please do everything you can to keep your eyes on the prize - the divorce decree.

This doesn't mean don't fight. It means pick your battles and pick those battles that help you toward the goal.

This doesn't mean don't stand up for yourself. To the contrary, it means you need to show her that the man she crushed has re-awakened and shouldn't be fucked with.

What it means:

  • Don't act in anger.
  • Control your reaction to her pushing your buttons.
  • Don't be petty or fight things that don't matter.
  • Don't get sidetracked or roped into a sideshow.
  • Don't worry about what she says about you to friends and family.
  • Don't play it out on social media. Let her.
  • Don't beat yourself up if you fuck up, we all do.

We can't be perfect but we can be better.