Wanted to share somethings I’ve realized after being free for a year. Hopefully this helps contribute to the community for you guys. Not knocking divorce and 100% don’t regret it, but there’s some realities you’ll deal with. 30m-no kids-no alimony-married for 1yr/together 5 years.

Check out r/MGTOW if you haven’t yet. It gets a bad rep as fascist, but I’ve found it to be full of dudes trying to regain their humanity after divorce.

1).- you’ll get lonely.

My first few months divorce I fucked my way across the city and joined every dating app I could, once that fire burned out I tried to find other hobbies but regardless of the tech and spend, you do get lonely.

2).-you’ll forget why you got divorced and how it was.

I’ve found myself missing the good time a lot, and even started thinking what if we got back together? Then have to relive the worst days and the suffocating pressure from the marriage. Take a second and appreciate how far you’ve come.

3). Friends/Life will bring up your ex and it still hurts.

I lost most of my close friends after they . But every once in awhile family/friends/co-workers will bring her up and dance around the subject like a live grenade. It’s ok to bring it up and be comfortable with your choice. Don’t feel bad about making the decision to divorce.

4). Shit is expensive on your own

Groceries, bills and taking care of only yourself can be challenging. From who watches your pets to getting a ride home after going out on the weekend. BUT remember you have total control over your budget and what choices you need to make.

-Wishing y’all the best on your journey. This community was so key in helping me through mine and hope to continue to pass on the good vibes. 🤝