I (21M) and my parents (55M and 51F) haven't always been close, but I lived a relatively normal childhood aside from restrictions in my teenage/highschool years. My parents had fights before, about 12 years back, as far as I can remember. But thinks looked OK recently years. My dad and I fight sometimes, he's controlling but I know the reasons he has for it. Sometimes he'd go overboard and do/say some stupid shit to keep me away from friends, gatherings and events. But nothing hectic. He gets verbal all the time and exaggerates stupid shit so it's basically a normal thing for my sibling and mom to go along with. Point is, I know my dad does and says stupid shit, but I know he's alright generally. And basically no shady stuff or anything heavy has happened to me believing there's a divorce coming.

But today, my mom told my brother(22M) and I that she wants to divorce my dad, since he's been unsupportive, verbally and physically abusive to my mom over the years. In her words, basically married my mom after his first marriage broke off and decided my mom would be chef and maid for him and my 2 older sisters back in the 90's. I'm shocked and all this because my dad's an asshole sometimes, yes, but literally been doing this shit all this time to my mom for basically the entire marriage. My dad is known for his temper, but as far as I knew, he was against domestic violence. So to hear all this coming from my mom, was a shocker.

She had even pointed out random times in the past what my dad did when we "almost caught on". Times where I genuinely thought we were a happy family. I had just started forming some sort of bonding with my dad in recently because of a household project I was helping on. So it's difficult for me to hear such antagonizing speech about him. My mom is most probably telling the truth, and is taking action accordly without causing a scene, which makes me believe she's telling the truth. She doesn't want anything other than to get away from my dad. But I'm still being puzzled that my dad would be such a hypocrite.

I feel like I'm stuck in the middle of this and I don't know how to get out. I was planning on moving out soon, but I wasn't prepared for this. What can I do that'll help me cope with this better?