My stbx was just garbage through our marriage for a bunch of untreated mental illness issues, and also just being a shitty person. She had an emotional affair 3 years into it, and then adopted the guys dog telling me it was from the humane society. A year ago she impulsively walked out one night for 4 months, began a relationship with another guy, and refused to book visitation or help financially with the kids for that time. And these are just highlights. At that time she said she wanted a separation and now she’s blaming the decision on mental illness. Whether it was or not I just can’t stand her and if it weren’t for the kids I’d have no contact with her at all. She still calls me multiple times a day on the pretence of being friends and co-parents. I don’t like her. The calls are rarely anything important and if I don’t respond she calls repeatedly until I do. How did you handle communication with kids? I want to cut it back as much as possible, but I realize for the kids it may be beneficial to have a positive relationship with their mom. What kind of balance have you guys found?