So my STBXW is hoping that we can be friends when all of this is said and done. We have kids and I know that being friends means we can coparent more easily and that we can do family things together. Prior to this bombshell, she was my best friend as well as my wife. I miss that.
However, I don't know how I can be a friend with her. This divorce was a bombshell that came out of nowhere. I don't want this. She has lied to me, betrayed me and hurt me in ways I never thought possible. I am so angry with her and don't see her as the same person as when we got married. I am scared that moving forward she is going to use me to get things that she wants.
I'm stuck with no easy answer for how best to move forward. The kids come first, I don't want them to suffer because I can't forgive and be nice. Something I've always tried to teach them. However, I don't know if I can muster the forgiveness to see her as anything more than the person who hurt me more than I thought possible. I'm scared that if I become friends, she's going to use me to get things she wants.
Anyone else been in this situation before?
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