I thought I'd follow up with everyone here since it's been almost three months since I posted my story: Who's Got Two Thumbs, The House, Car, and His Entire Retirement? This Guy!

First, interactions with my ex-wife have dropped to nearly zero. Thank goodness! It's horrible seeing someone you love fall apart and destroy their life. I occasionally have to give her mail or something, but there has been no interaction in more than a month.

Second, I officially have the deed to the house. I'm not sure if I am going to say or move though. I'm pretty far from work, family, and friends. The only reason I'm here in this house is because of her (but she would certainly tell you I never listened to her).

Third, the dating scene is much easier for a man in his mid-thirties. It could be a combination of things though. I'm much more confident, I don't care about being rejected, and at the end of the day if I am rejected or there isn't a second date... more time to do what I enjoy, so I've also become more arrogant and dominant.

Last and most important, I have rough days. I sleep a lot more. The nightmares are gone, but the insomnia is unreal some nights. I have lost 25 lbs. What has gotten me through the tough spots is having a routine. Every morning I get up, make my bed, take a shower, and have breakfast. I do my laundry every week, and have lunch and dinner around the same times. These routines help reinforce a new normalcy. If I didn't have them, the house and myself would both be a wreck. Work has also been a godsend because it keeps me busy too. Weekends are actually the toughest part of the week for me.

Having said all of that, divorce is tough, even when it's handed to you on a golden platter. When it's not -- well, I can't even imagine, but I empathize greatly. Good luck to the rest of you.