Hey Fellas I am a year out from my ex-moving out. My divorce was finalized 12/2/20. 3 kids, divorce was a total shock and surprise.
Writing this for whomever may need to hear it- I’m in a pretty good place right now. Holidays were tough, birthdays, Sunday mornings sometimes.... but I am in a real good place. More evolved, more reflective, stronger mentally and emotionally.
I got there through a year a weekly therapy (cut it to twice monthly 2 months ago, and going to do 1/month in 2021), journaling, walking a lot, talking to friends and family. And also by looking ahead. My ex- gave me a gift- options, a choice. My next significant other will be kinder, more considerate, better suited for me in the sack, more involved, less of a taker.... so thanks for that, ex-wife. Oh, and honest.
I no longer have to tolerate things I don’t want, not longer feel like I need to make excuses.

My divorce has been a gift. Tough pill to swallow, but I am getting there.

Hopefully you all will see the light in your process sooner than later. ✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼