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Please Gentlemen, if your ex or STBXW says, “You’re the one that got away”, don’t believe her.

March 14, 2022

This quote is straight out of the narcissist handbook bc it’s more about her and what you do for her, rather than making you believe she misses you.

Once it’s over, it’s finito. Whether she says she wants to take a break, or she seems colder, trust your instincts. It’s over. Don’t let her soften you up with prospects of emotional comfort and physical love. She made her bed, and now she has to lie in it. Don’t be ruthless and laugh at her bc she chose to behave wrongly or chose wrong. Be amicable, be wise, and have your heart guarded. It’s ok to be cordial but you need to be wise as the cunning serpent and have the innocent interactions of a dove. Diplomacy is always the best option.

And remember, the best revenge isn’t going tic for tac with her. It’s actually withdrawing your attention and pretending as though she doesn’t exist anymore. That is why grey rocking is so effective. And the really best revenge is living your best life and being the self actualized and self improved version that your potential will allow.

Always be forward thinking. If you catch yourself reminiscing or feeling nostalgic, automatically tell yourself, “what’s next?” The next thing will add value to your life when before you had a huge leech on you that sucked your emotions and energy. You are free more than you think.

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Title Please Gentlemen, if your ex or STBXW says, “You’re the one that got away”, don’t believe her.
Author KnownLedgesIsPowder
Upvotes 50
Comments 13
Date March 14, 2022 5:58 AM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit /r/Divorce_Men
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[–]CaliDude75 10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

No infidelity in my case, but I have no interest in reconciliation. She's shown herself unable and unwilling to change, and once a narcissist, always a narcissist. I don't wish her ill, but I also don't want her involved in my life going forward.

[–]SeekingHealth 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I just can't see myself getting back together with Satan.

[–]SeekingHealth 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for this reminder, I needed it.

[–]thedukeinc 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Men, please remember that the opposite of love is indifference.

[–]pegleg_legal 6 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

If by "got away" she means that prison escape scene from O Brother Where Art Thou, I agree.

[–]DeJohn123 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"Damn, we're in a tight spot"

[–]Descarted1 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

For some guys here, its a lot like Andy's escape from Shawshank Redemption.

[–]anonmdivy 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Or, believe her and stay the f away still.

[–]YetAnotherGuy2 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"What's next" is a really powerful question. Also keep that in mind - look forward.

[–]Basic_Advance7627 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You got rid of her for a reason. This is what a cheater says. Remember…she’s a cheater.

[–]Empty-Temporary-5916 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow I needed to read this… thanks bro!!

[–]CRobinsFly 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

For me, what was so satisfying is the fact that she still seems to expect me to do things for her when I am definitely not going to.

Like "are you gonna finish the remodel in the bathroom?"

"my car needs work, are you going to do it?"

"Umm, no, I'm not doing it, not for free at least. I suppose you could pay me - I charge normal clients between 75-100 dollars per hour for that - I'm willing to offer the same to you."

"But my father still took care of and looked after my mother when they got divorced"... "I think we can agree that I am the polar opposite of your father, chalk this up as another way."

[–]One-Donkey-9418 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Well said. I hope her new boyfriend is a mechanic, plumber,electrician, pool tech, carpenter, protector and a dozen other titles. Fat chance.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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