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That moment when she confused me giving up for "acceptance"

November 24, 2021

A little unproductive reflecting today. But I just remember that moment so well, sitting across from each other at the dining room table. She said she appreciated how I had been acting towards her lately and I was like - It's because I don't care anymore. That comment probably added six months to the court battle. Probably not worth it.

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Title That moment when she confused me giving up for "acceptance"
Author pegleg_legal
Upvotes 13
Comments 8
Date November 24, 2021 3:47 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/Divorce_Men
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[–]sicrm 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

it isn’t easy but try to ask yourself is what you’re thinking of saying going to help you get the outcome you want.

if isn’t yes, do your best to bury it until you’re alone.

[–]Mynewadventures 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It so easy to say we'll do that.....;)

[–]25_years 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's because I don't care anymore

I've always believed that hate is NOT the opposite of love. In fact, hate and love are close cousins. When feelings are intense, it's easy to shift between these emotions.

So, what's the opposite of love? Indifference. Not giving a fuck. I think it goes for both men and women. When a woman you love has totally lost interest, that hurts the most. So, you probably hurt her with the comment, OP, but at least you're emotionally free. Can't put a price on that.

[–]DeJohn123 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I completely agree with this. Imagine going out to the park with someone you love... does that mean you hate every other person there because you love the person next to you. No. You ignore every one else - you're indifferent to them.

[–]Soggy-Occasion3930 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly. This is why you just kiss her ass until the divorce is finalized and honestly just walk away after that. You're better off just saying "I'm sorry" and giving her the silent treatment while the divorce is moving through the courts instead of getting in heated arguments.

If your divorce is dirty then she might be recording you for evidence to show the court or to file false DV claims against. Remember, the definition of "abuse" is more broad than what you think it is. Look up the duluth model for an example.

[–]Gattsama 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

LOL, 17y together, 12y married, 1mo separated. I told her I wanted to terminate about a week ago. She said she understood, but was confused why as since me moving out we were communicating better and no fights. I said that's because I'm emotionally divorced from the relationship :)

Easy not to fight when you don't give a f&ck.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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