The paperwork boys. It's important.

nuclearxp · 2021-02-04T23:52:34+00:00

Agree x1000. Read this carefully people: every single stipulation should have a contingency. Every single payment, statement, date, agreement, whatever should have a “what if”.

For example, my ex had to refinance the house and wanted to say I had to be out 30 days after the divorce finalized and I had to initiate the refi within a week, but didn’t initially commit to how long she had to give me my equity. We wrote in multiple contingency plans if she refi’d and it took too long, or failed to get approved. It’s astounding how many places I found her lawyer had verbiage like “will attempt” or “will start” with no dates anywhere.

No_more_BPD_2020 · 2021-02-05T00:11:14+00:00

Thanks for this. I'm feeling shafted I have to pay my lawyer to show up in court for half a day to straighten out my paperwork filing(court is screwed up during covid) but at least I'll know it's done right. I hope.

BobQuasit · 2021-02-05T04:56:48+00:00

Also: records, records, records. Never pay alimony or child support in cash - always pay by check. Your canceled check is proof that your payment was received. Record EVERYTHING that has anything to do with the divorce or your child. My ex claimed that I hadn't paid her $10,000. Luckily I was able to find a copy of the cashed check and prove that she was lying (again).

didactisaurusrex · 2021-02-06T21:31:43+00:00

God damn this is what I didn't want to see regarding finances and headaches, but it's also what I needed to see today. I've been holding off or trying to get my financial disclosure forms filled out for over a month now. I haven't even told her that I'm filing but I've already got an attorney who handles 80% men for her clients and I've had that attorney since December. I was told to hold off by my attorney from having to talk to her about divorce until we get our taxes together because my wife is a doctor and has her own practice but her practice has been struggling or failing for the past 4 years. and with her owning her own business it's easy enough for her to write things off to look like she's making even less. Fortunately we file a joint taxes every year using an accountant. But the emotional pain from just filling out the stupid financial disclosure forms is like trying to fight against a wall.

veastt · 2021-02-07T22:21:21+00:00

With the lawyer, how do pay them? Is it a lump sum or a per hour basis that we have to pay them? Would they have payment plans available

The paperwork boys. It's important.

1 Get a lawyer. A divorce lawyer. Who has done this as a career. Not a friend of the family, not some cousin a 100% divorce lawyer. Get your own. Find and pay the money. This is the single most important thing you can do.

3 Read her financial statement. All of it. Think she's hiding money? Say so. Tell them you think the statement is false.

Title	The paperwork boys. It's important.
Author	GodammitSmalls
Upvotes	15
Comments	8
Date	February 4, 2021 9:26 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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