My situation is a little different in the sense I was dealing with a covert narcissist.

Anyway we've been divorced for a short while now. I was thinking back to the time I was calling her out on her behaviors.

She said to me "you've had 4 years to get over this" (her cheating)

To which I responded....."maybe I have had 4 years but in that time what have you done to help me? When have you uttered the words.....what can I do to help you get over this?"

Complete silence followed by "we're done with this conversation".

It was at this point I knew I had to call her out each and every time she would try to project or gas light me. And each and every time I did.

It wasn't easy but I won against this evil vile manipulative cheating woman. I won.

I got 50/50 custody. No child support or alimony. I won.

Stay the course on your journey. Some days are really hard. Some days you think you're in the twilight zone. I am here to tell you that you can survive but not only that.....you can THRIVE!