I have a friend that 2 years ago that really went through it. His wife was fucking her first husband. Out of no where she gave him divorce papers and within a few months remarried the ex. She did this while leading a couples ministry in the church. When the pastors of the church checked into the situation....she had appeared to have went through a case of DICK and the tingles.
She told them that her soon to be ex at the time hadn't given her an orgasm their whole marriage and that's why she was leaving him. UmmmmWTF?
So eventually about a year later my buddy finds another girl and they get engaged. She comes down with colon cancer.....dead 6 months later.
My buddy's dad then gets covid.......he dies.......
Then my buddy gets covid.....and his business suffers greatly......although he recovered he's just now starting to get back to normal.
I hit my friend up in the midst of all this.....I just to him that none of it was his fault. That he shouldn't blame himself....because I knew he was.
The point of this post is to let you know.....we all are going through shit. Your shit I may not be able to handle.....my shit you sure as hell couldn't. That's okay......we all walk this thing called life.......life has a way of humbling us all.
When I'm having a bad day I think to myself "it could be worse" and then I think of some stories here that you've shared. Or I think of my buddy.
Btw he's doing a lot better now.
Hang in there fellas....you don't need to be the best....just give your best.
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Interesting post, OP. My personal story is pretty bad. Too many details to share here. But reading this subreddit makes me grateful sometimes.
My ex and I owned lots of real estate during the marriage. I loved the last house we owned. I put gallons of sweat equity into it. I thought it was my "Forever Home". Strong emotional connection with the house for me. Before the marriage got bad, we had to part ways with that house for financial reasons.
For the rest of the marriage, we/she was in apartments that I didn't care about at all.
Sometimes, I'll read on this subreddit (and other places) of men who split-up WHILE they owned their Dream Home. And they were forced out, but they still must pay the mortgage. THEN, the ex invites the new boyfriend to move in, and even play with the kids.
Personally, I don't know how a man can deal with that. My head would explode. I'd lose my cool, for sure, to see that. Every man has a boiling point, but how can such a situation be okay in any Universe? Yeah, I'd be like the Dave Attell joke, standing outside the house at night, drunk, yelling, "I built that deck, you bitch!!"
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