"We don't miss our ex's, we miss what should have been."

MisterEdGein8 · 2021-07-08T00:42:45+00:00

I miss the $200k I lost. 😢

InWeGoNow · 2021-07-08T00:39:25+00:00

Bingo. But now I understand it was all a charade and "what should have been" was never possible.

SirOssis · 2021-07-08T02:52:33+00:00

Yes. I miss the possibility of our future life together and not the actual life we had. I was quite miserable…

Road_to_independence · 2021-07-08T12:38:08+00:00

I missed what could have been, but in hindsight most of that was hokey bullshit marketed to us through movies and TV shows.

dpch · 2021-07-08T03:00:57+00:00

So true.

LonelyNC123 · 2021-07-08T06:28:10+00:00

I am still married, trying to figure out how to afford to leave. If I ever get free I am positive - - - - all I will miss is the life I thought we were going to have together.

Bioshock_Jock · 2021-07-08T13:31:33+00:00

I'm in that transition period now and starting to realize we are better people and parents apart. It also helps I met someone I really like and she really likes me and we are taking it suuuuuuuuper slow. Good thing is we have so many mutual things in common and it is really helping me through the final phase of depression.

jimsmythee · 2021-07-08T15:30:02+00:00

That's true. I would say I still love the woman I married. The woman I married worked full time, could drive a car without crashing, didn't pop pills, and paid all of her bills.

The woman I divorced? A chronically unemployable pill popper who has 10 different doctors, each not knowing what the other is prescribing. She lives with her parents now, as she didn't get any alimony in our divorce. She did get half of my 401k, but she spent it all in 1 year.

So yes, at night, I think about the woman I married, before she found pills.

Jbr74 · 2021-07-23T14:34:00+00:00

I miss the time I wasted on that narcissist skank.

Title	"We don't miss our ex's, we miss what should have been."
Author	oli_21_
Upvotes	77
Comments	16
Date	July 7, 2021 11:41 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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