This week is my first full week in my own rental. Walking in true freedom after 7 years of hell.

Long story short.....wife of 15 years cheated on me. In the midst of ups and downs and trying to reconcile we became pregnant after 18 years.

The beautiful thing is during her pregnancy we had to get genetic testing done so I know my son is mine.

 

Cheating, in and of itself is horrible and very very difficult if not nearly impossible to overcome. Add in a covert narcissist that lacks empathy and compassion and it's guaranteed to fail.

Dealing with a covert narcissist is death by 1000 cuts.

I grew up with no father.....in fact he demanded my mother get an abortion or he would leave. My mother had 3 kids at the time. She chose me :)

One night when my son was 8 months old....my wife disrespected and second guessed me in front of him.

It was like a light switch flipped. Once he went to bed I spoke with her and told her that she would never disrespect me in front of him again.

Being a covert narc....instead of apologizing she doubled down and tried to gaslight and belittle my request not to disrespect me. Dismissed me as it not being a big deal.

And that was the night I moved into the spare bedroom and the road to divorce started.

 

It's amazing the hell I walked through for the next 20 months for my son. Something prior that I wasn't able to do. I chose before to live comfortably miserable with this cheating narcissist.

As a result....I now am living my best life. Every day I get better. I enjoy life with my son as we split custody 50\50.

So crazy we co parent amazing.....but that's as far as it goes.

Btw my now 3 year old discovered Transformers. He spent an hour looking at several old ones I had in a box. He's my world and he quite possibly saved my life. On top of that....I'll be an example to him of someone that didn't settle.

Tomorrow we're going turtle hunting........then after that going to the park to a splash pad.....then after that we're going to play with Transformers. :)