This is my first time posting, actually it’s my first ever Reddit post. I’ve been lurking for awhile and some of things I’ve read here have been incredibly helpful through this. The stories resonate with me deeply, they remind me I’m not alone. I’m not the only one with this feeling in my chest from anxiety and sometimes anguish. The men here who’ve offered books to read and videos to watch and advice to offer have helped more than you know. I’m positive I’m not the only man lurking here running to the library and talking with their counselors about some new insight gained. So thank you everyone who’s offered up these things and you’re more than likely helping hundreds if not thousands of other men just browsing this sub while going through one of the most traumatic experiences in life. Whoever offered up “Too good to leave, too bad to stay” thank you, thank you so much. It didn’t take but 100 pages in to accept this was a shit show of a marriage, but more importantly realize it doesn’t have to be that way and it’s ok to get out of unfixable toxic situation. So this is my gratitude post, the next will be the venting post. Thank you guys