I would be happy if EVERY woman who has a problem with "Not All Men" migrated away to their own island and never, EVER came back to civilization. Don't discuss shit with us - just GO. NOW.

This is going to be a ramble.

They probably do think all women are afraid of most men - likely their friendship group is incredibly politically homogeneous. I've become increasingly convinced that very few people actually have a clue how the "average" person behaves, if there even is such a thing. Unless you make deliberate effort to meet people from a huge number of backgrounds and countries, your perspective is limited to those around you.

The number of people in my life who express soft feminist views are fairly many (though these are sometimes incongruous with the rest of their character), and the people who express the hard radfem views as you see on the Internet are almost non-existent. There are a few I know both online and real life, but they don't talk like they do on social media. I know they do exist, but if it weren't for social media I wouldn't know what the "patriarchy" is. I've been shocked that a few women I've been close to have been more dismissive towards feminism than myself. (which isn't overwhelmingly - I just despise pop feminism) I've clocked people as "woke" types, just for them to say something that's considerably to the right of what I believe. The point being that I think the Internet has skewed what I believe a typical political position that a normal person may take is.

I kind of recognise now this is the reason why I can't relate to some people talking about the behaviour of men. I've heard edgy jokes and some light racism, (usually but not always more "racial insensitivity" or ignorance than anything explicitly malicious) I haven't heard rape jokes or the N word directed towards someone specific, (that I remember) I struggle to empathise with people who find themselves surrounded by "jock"ish guys that do this stuff all the time, because that just hasn't been my life experience. I've seen these type of people in movies, and that's about it. If I try to talk with these people about the average behaviour of men, we're just going to talk past each-other and probably won't reach a resolution.

In theory, you'd piece together experiences from several people to try to get a more realistic view on the situation, but people very quickly dismiss each-other and claim that since they haven't experienced something, they're lying or are just ignorant to the reality of their situation. I've seen this with black people saying they think racism is overstated (something which I would often disagree with), with women saying feminism has done its job in the West, and so on.