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People making fun of ,and shaming, a man for refusing to have a vasectomy

March 23, 2022
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Title People making fun of ,and shaming, a man for refusing to have a vasectomy
Author abgfkh333
Upvotes 33
Comments 9
Date March 23, 2022 7:27 AM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit /r/EverydayMisandry
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/EverydayMisandry/people-making-fun-of-and-shaming-a-man-for.1107968
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[–]Extra-Strike2276 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I know 5 different guys that got a vasectomy. I also know 5 guys that needed little blue pills before they hit 40. They just happen to be the same guys, so I'm sure it's just a coincidence.

[–]abgfkh333[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am copy pasting the post ,that they were responding to ,here-

My wife (34F) made me choose between a vasectomy or no sex. I (38M) chose no sex and now she is mad.

I'm not the OP, the OOP is [u/ThrowRAvasectomey]

My wife and I have been married for 7 years and have a 3 year old daughter. We both agreed that we only wanted 1 child so we are good. She recentely told me to get a vasectomy because we weren't going to have any kids anymore and she wanted to stop taking birth control. She told me that her friend's husband got one and that they are having a good experience with it.

I told her that I get that she wants to stop taking birth control and I fully support her decision but that I will never get a vasectomy because I don't feel comfortable getting one and I wil not alter my body if it isn't necessary and that I will never change my mind about this. I suggested that I can just wear a condom like I use to when we first started our relationship so she doesn't need to take any form of birth control and we can continue our sex life.

She basically got mad at me over this and even told me that if I don't get a vasectomy we will not have sex anymore. I made it clear again that I'm willing to wear a condom every time so there isn't a problem. She told me that I'm either getting a vasectomy or we aren't having sex anymore.

I like having sex but I'm not some desperate loser who is going to beg for it and do something he doesn't want just for sex. So I told her that I guess we aren't having sex anymore. This was 2 months ago. It's unfortunate that we aren't having sex anymore, but it is not like my life depends on it, so at the end of the day I'm good.

My wife on the other hand is not taking it so well. Couple of days she got mad at me for not wanting to have sex with her and that I think my seed is more important than our sex life. She also said a bunch of other things to try and tell me to get a vasectomy. But just like before I told her no and I made it clear to her that I'm wiling to wear a condom.

Again it is unfortunate that we aren't having sex, but at the end of the day I'm good. I don't want this stupid fight to lead to anything more and want a healthy way to deal with this. How can I make it clear to my wife that she is making a big deal out of this for no reason? Something like this shouldn't be a big deal for us because we have gone through so much more.


I like how some people worded this: My body, my choice

Since the last time a lot has changed. Like a lot of you suggested, I started to communicate honestly and open with my wife about everything. We heard eachother's concerns out and were able to understand eachother better. This already cleared up a lot of the tension we have been having over the past few months.

We also had our first session of marriage counseling and this cleared a lot of things for us up. Our counselor basically explained that when we both have sex, whether that is with protection or not, we have to accept the fact that there will always be a risk of pregnancy. And if we want to completely eliminate this risk by undergoing a surgical procedure, that this is a personal matter we have to decide for ourselves and we can't push on our partner. This also cleared a lot of the tension between my wife and I.

We even started having sex again using a condom because we both felt comfortable with it and it was great. We also discussed different options of contraception and we are looking more into the use of a copper IUD since this does not contain hormons and doesn't effect the act it self. But for now we both feel comfortable using condoms and might just stick to it. My wife even said that she might be looking into tubal ligation and I'll support any decision she decides to make.

All in all, things seem to get better and we will both keep working on our marriage.

[–]gabrielcoronel_ 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've my girlfriend ever suggests I get a vasectomy, I'll dump her. Not because I dislike the idea, but because she has the nerve to suggest it out of no where.

[–]postvasectomy 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]YourPillsAintWorkin 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

What's funny is I've seen the hysterics go both ways. Women getting mad at their men for refusing vasectomy, and women getting mad at their men for wanting vasectomy. It's nothing but a power trip.

[–]NohoTwoPointOh 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

women getting mad at their men for wanting vasectomy. It's nothing but a power trip.

This. I was in the last camp.

I responded with "my body, my choice.."

Was fun to watch the ladies divide by zero trying to process that.

[–]TheLWMA 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Shoutout to u/Clear-Sherbert-4913 for calling out the bs.

[–]Clear-Sherbert-4913 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow, these comments are even worse than the last time I checked. Glad that someone else can see how disgusting these comments are!

[–]nsfwmodeme 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The guy in that post said his wife told him to get a vasectomy or there would be no more sex, and she's mad he chose the second option.

First: she gave him both options.
Second: he didn't want to alter his body but offered to use condoms, like he used before with her.

Also some redditors shaming him because she carried the burden of pregnancy, as if she didn't have a choice to terminate it of she didn't want it, also as if it wasn't consented, and also as if OP has the option to carry the pregnancy himself. She wasn't doing it for him, she too wanted to have a baby and (I hope) she knew she would be the one in the couple to be pregnant.

He offered a sensible choice (condoms). She rejected it insisting he had to undergo a surgical procedure or else no sex. He chose one of the two options she offered, but because it was a choice she didn't like, she's mad at him.

And then some ppl pick on poor op. SMH.

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