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The way men who live with their parents past a certain age is disgusting

December 11, 2022


This is just a small glimpse into how men who live with their parents are talked about. Even if you work, pay bills, help around the house you're still a leech or a parasite. Women in particular will see you as a worthless loser and deserve to die alone. It doesn't matter why you live with your parents. If you're a man living at home you're just the scum of the Earth.

I never hear the same vitriol hurled at women who live with their parents. It's always men because men are expected to provide and achieve and if you live at home it must be because you're a failure and a loser. This attitude is just too entrenched in society to fight it but I'm just sick of it.

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Title The way men who live with their parents past a certain age is disgusting
Author Celticpenguin85
Upvotes 63
Comments 14
Date December 11, 2022 1:07 PM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit /r/EverydayMisandry
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[–]AnFGhoster 30 points31 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Further proof that Quora is an absolute shit hole of a site. It's gotten even worse than most of reddit in the past 2 or 3 years. I wonder how many times some of those answers and answers like them have been reported to no effect.

[–]RatDontPanic 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Name one place where that attitude isn't prevalent though..

[–]Kuato2012 24 points25 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think that attitude is fed by the toxic idea that men are supposed to be providers. If you start with that attitude, then it follows that men who live with their parents are "leeching" resources, rather than being financially independent resource generators.

Wouldn't it be nice to live in a world where men are simply regarded as human beings, each with their own hidden struggles.

[–]bmania77 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Its bullshit though, you can live with parents and have lots your income spare, instead of paying a landlord and bank. I am down on stamp duty, council tax and energy bills, a lot of the extra work men do to be providers or seen as provider just goes the government.

[–]lordhankster 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The personal and financial independence is a fair argument to make to live on your own. I don't know the actual stats about people who live with their parents past a certain age but I imagine things like the cost of living crisis, house prices going way up and ill health or certain conditions will be a huge factor to stay with your parents for a little longer. None of that means a man should be labelled as a leech or parasite.

[–]Celticpenguin85[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Typo in title: I meant to say "The way men who live with their parents past a certain age are treated is disgusting".

[–]Born_Conflict3653 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

feminism is misandry

[–]Urch_b_Smirch 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I live with my parents and I'm 25 and I can save up as much money as I want and of course I still help with bills, Chores etc and I like it plus they're the only people I have in my life that care about me (Besides my sister). I'd rather do that than pay over $1000 a month for a small one bedroom apartment

[–]Yepitsme2020 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

If you really want to see how deep this goes, contrast the comments on the OP asking about Men, with the exact same question being asked in regards to adult women. (Also on Quora)


Example: "If you are saving money for the future, living at home is a smart thing to do.
Other than the fact that you aren't doing what every one else is doing, what is the downside? The upside is, you are helping your parents by paying rent. You are living in a nicer, safer area than you can afford on your own. You aren't wasting your life away working extra hours, just to pay rent on your own. And most importantly, you are spending extra time with your parents, as they won't be around for ever."

Another gem... Apparently it's an anger-inducing question to ask if it's strange for an adult woman to live with her parents... How DARE we ask!

"These questions anger me, I'm about to turn 31 and I just moved back in with my parents a year and a half ago.
You never know why someone is living at home, so make sure to dig deeper to find out why before you automatically write them off. Love is hard to find, you could be missing out on having an amazing relationship all because you didn't like the idea of dating a stereotype.
That's really all it is, a stereotype. And when you think of someone who is still living at home, you think of (or I do when I try thinking judgementally) an overweight zitty gamer who never leaves the house.
Here's some reasons an adult could be living at their parents house:
The economy isn't what it was when our parents started their careers, she could've lost her home due to losing her job.
She might be a caregiver for an ill parent, nursing homes are insanely expensive.
She actually may have problems like addiction.
Might've recently divorced and lost the house.
Her house was ruined by natural disasters of some kind.
You never know what someone's going through, it's not worth losing a potential love over it."



All the threads regarding women living at home are filled with reasons we should not judge and should be understanding. When the rare comment is made suggesting he would not date an adult woman who lives with her parents, the comments to his response immediately slap him down. The contrast/double standard here is extreme.

[–]Celticpenguin85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great post. See that's exactly what I'm talking about. Woman lives with her parents and it's nothing but justifications and empathy. Man lives with his parents and he's a loser manchild.

I made the mistake of posting on AmITheAsshole about a situation. A few weeks ago I was in a car accident and wrecked my car. Insurance wouldn't pay a dime because when we switched providers, my mom didn't get collision coverage on my car so she could save money and pocket the difference. I've been using her car to get to and from work since I can't afford a new car right now and she's retired and never leaves the house anyway. Now my aunt is all in my business, putting me on blast and more or less demanding that I buy a new car RIGHT NOW.

I thought for sure people would be on my side seeing as how my mom blatantly screwed me over but everyone was shitting all over me, making the usual snide comments about "mommy" doing things for me and blaming me for not looking up my policy since I didn't think my mom would gut my coverage without running it by me first. We've shared a car insurance policy since I was a teenager because we get a discount and I give her more than enough every month to cover my share of the coverage but these people think we should both just pay more for insurance because of some dumb hangup over men living at home.

[–]Nicename19 -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Goes for both genders, move out and grow up. Unless your from a culture where this is the done thing. Nobody in my country wants to date someone living with their parents.

[–]Celticpenguin85[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

As you can see from u/Yepitsme2020 comment, no it does not go for both genders. Also I'm grown. Go fuck yourself

[–]Nicename19 -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh hey let's have a romantic night in your childhood bedroom, we can have really quiet sex and then play with Beyblade, oh so attractive

[–]Celticpenguin85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm not looking to date and don't know wtf Beyblade is so I don't give a shit what anyone finds attractive. Fuck off

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