Today in 2XC: "Men are trash." 11.7k karma, 80+ awards, made it to r/all

BloomingBrains · 2021-04-12T06:13:44+00:00

There is a difference between viewing someone as "just a hole" and wanting to confirm the biological gender of a potential partner. Heterosexual men are by definition attracted to women, so it's not unreasonable that they would want to confirm OP is a woman especially if she has a masculine appearance, which it sounds like she might. If anything, she should take it as a positive sign that they want to confirm she is female, since that means they aren't turned off by her looks and are considering pursuing further if the answer is yes.

This is once again an example of people being unable to apply basic logic and empathy to male sexuality, and instead automatically interpreting things in the least charitable way possible. "Men are trash" at the end there is really just the icing on the misandry cake.

I wonder if OP thinks gay men view potential partners as "just a dick" if they want to make sure the person they're talking to has one. (Actually, come to think of it, isn't it a bit heterosexist to extrapolate "men suck" from behavior that straight men did in the first place?) Or if she would apply the same criticism to lesbian women.

Because as we all know, anyone who cares what genitals their partner has can't also care about who they are as a person. /s

I do feel bad about the nasty messages (assuming they're actually happening), but that does not justify misandry.

Kuato2012 · 2021-04-12T05:59:04+00:00

I don't normally browse /all, but I gave it a look today and found this. 13 million members, and this was what they managed to send to the front page of reddit.

And it's not like mods didn't see the thread. There are plenty of removed comments testifying to that. They're just tolerant of sexism.

I do want to give credit where it's due though. There is one comment chain, quite a ways down, that actually picked up on the toxicity in the OP and in some of the comments. Even though I'm quoting these people to express my thanks for their sanity, I'm not sure whether any of them would appreciate being pinged here (gasp). So I've redacted their names:

Person A

How you gonna have a talk relating to body positivity and inclusion and then start talking about dick sizes and how assholes have micropenises? Like that's not ok either.

Person B

I mean, OP wrote "Men are trash" as a conclusion to her rant, that's like... a breach of rule 1 AND 3.

Hypocrisy everywhere...

Person C

I'll point out that any community which fails to call out bullshit and regulate its own will simply fall to the worst of its elements.

Person D

And also using one or two men to generalize the whole population when op said “Men are trash.” This kind of talk makes feminism seem less like a fight for equality and more like a fight to turn the tables.

Those four users seem alright. The 11.7k who upvoted the trash aren't.

az226 · 2021-04-12T19:02:02+00:00

Then there was this comment that shows it’s pervasive among women as well:

“I've heard that the panic over "trans people in the bathrooms!" has ended up with way more cis women being confronted than actual trans women (which makes sense, because there are way more cis women than trans women). Basically women are being scrutinized for haircuts, height, jawline, etc. It's a good reminder that there's lots of variation among humans and to not make assumptions! I used to work with a woman some thought might be trans...then she got pregnant.”

https://np.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/mora71/i_keep_getting_asked_if_im_a_real_woman_and_it/gu5xvm1/

But you know, alL mEn aRe TrAsH

ShivasKratom3 · 2021-08-02T01:43:04+00:00

I mean if it’s literally just ensuring that you’ll be sexually attracted along with emotionally and all…?

LolwhatYesme · 2021-05-27T23:19:22+00:00

Sounds like a wonderful and positive person

Title	Today in 2XC: "Men are trash." 11.7k karma, 80+ awards, made it to r/all
Author	Kuato2012
Upvotes	80
Comments	10
Date	April 12, 2021 5:40 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/EverydayMisandry
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/everydaymisandry/comments/mp7oj7/today_in_2xc_men_are_trash_117k_karma_80_awards/
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