2 years ago, I got into RedPill, like really deep. As a single man in my mid-twenties, it spoke to me (obviously their main audience). I started going to the gym. And after a few months I gained like 15 kilos and looked much more like a man. Things started to get good. I started to dress way better and took care of myself. I actually got more attention from women. Whenever we went "out" I had t-shirts that emphasized my (now) way broader shoulders. And the attention I got from women was amazing.

However, after a while, I started to notice something. It was as all the women's personalities suddenly became way shittier. Of course, that confirmed my "suspicions" from all the "amazing" RP knowledge. "You should expect the worst from women. If not now, definitely later." I was angry and disappointed.

But I couldn't get rid of that weird feeling. Something wasn't right. Before I started RedPill, women were nicer. And then it hit me. The way you act, the way you are - that's the kind of person you will attract (and/or gravitate towards). I left all that RP bullshit behind me. Still went to the gym, though. And of course, a year after that, I met my now girlfriend. Ironically, in winter when we had so much clothing you could barely see any of my new improved stature. Yes, I was pretty loud and the center of attention when we met, but that was just drunk me trying to have fun. After we went on dates, we actually got to know each other more maturely and in a normal environment. We were very different from the drunk people we were when we met outside. And most importantly, I was different from the person I was when I followed RP. No frustration or anger. Just consider everyone is a human, has daily problems, etc... And it worked so well. We matched greatly, laughed a lot and had a lot of fun.

It's been a year since then. The relationship is still as great as it was in the beginning. We had a few fights, but after those fights we apologized to each other and talked it out. What was bothering each other and how we will change things. And yes, as I said, it worked out. No RP bullshit. :) We still have a ton of sex and initiation is 50/50 (didn't expect that, huh RPers?). We actually haven't had a real fight in half a year, after the initial expectation problems were ironed out through talking (amazing, right?). No need for abuse or whatever.

Now yes - when she is indecisive, I "lead". But I always ask for her opinion. I always ask what she wants. And yes - gym WILL help you, but not if you look like a caricature of a bodybuilder. Broad shoulders are nice, but don't overdo it, you'll attract the kind of woman that will like you only for that. And most importantly - no need for any abuse or anything like that. Be decisive, but also considerate. No need to hide your feelings. Although my SO sometimes says I'm like an emotional rock, she also admits I give her a lot of affection. Obviously don't nag like a broken record. If things are that tough, go for a psychiatrist. But I'm getting off the point...

So, my lesson? Yes, if you're a cool person, people will want to be around you. HOWEVER...

If you're a genuinely nice person, you will attract that same kind of nice person. If you're shitty, you will attract shitty people. And that's why RedPillers keep getting disappointed.