Obligatory English is not first language for both of us.

Background: together since junior high, losing virginity to each other, our parents are old friends to each other.

What cause us to be trapped in the red pill maze: Fear. There were so many cheating and breaking up going on in our friends' circle, especially during the high school-university transitions. We were afraid of heading the same path and scrambling for online 'help' instead of just accepting that most of our friends back then were morons.

How is it like being RPW and RedPiller couple: we could not just RELAX and enjoy the relationship. We felt like we had something to prove. He felt like he could not be open with me because he did not want to appear weak. I second guessed many things that I have done (did I do that because I wanted to test him? Did I do that because of my nature as a woman? Or did I do that because of I am me?). There were many more RP stuffs that actually did not line up with how our relationship was. We wanted an easy, stress free, chill relationship...but it was impossible to have that following the red pill.

How did we left it: we went too far by planning for living more or less traditionally with us raising kids and me being a 'surrendered wife', while he being a captain and I first mate. Deep inside, he did not like nor want that kind of responsibility. Deep inside I want to work and travel instead of be a SAHM. The moment where we cleared off the red pill fog was the moment we realized that we nearly bought a house to live together and plan to have children...practically just because some strangers in the internet told us to do it.

Where we are now: we broke up around one year and a half after leaving the red pill. Not because of cheating, we easily stayed faithful to each other until the end. It's just because we both want different things. I have always felt that my ex swings both ways (he likes guys too, but it was a taboo-ish thing where we used to live) and he wanted to explore that side of him. I landed a job where I can travel a lot not long after too. My ex is now together with a nice man and we are staying in contact and I am also bestfriend with hisnnew man. During our relationship, the part that I enjoyed most was our strong friendship (it is almost a 20 years of friendship in total now) and it was temporarily mising during the RP days, but I am grateful that we regained that and are still keeping it until this very day.