(sorry I'm on mobile) I wasn't actually sure where to talk about this. This seems like a maybe good place as the people here have been on the other end of it. Please let me know if there is a better place for it, thanks.
Someone that I had previously had good conversations with and enjoyed talking to (despite him being a bit misogynistic) as now gone full throttle rp. He previously thought I was an "outlier". I'm not nuerotypical, I have niche interests, I love board games and video games and fantasy lore, etc. We recently had a conversation and it's like he's a different person.
He now thinks that any "masculine" hobbies and interests I have could only be for male attention (despite none of my gaming handles being feminine in any way so no one on that platform would know?) and that I fit his ideas about women 100%. He thinks "men and women can't have conversations because their brains are different". Ironically, despite looking and interacting normal enough to blend into society on the outside, because of not being nuerotypical I think most people (men and women) seem more like weird ass aliens and I don't understand how their brains work. I've always had the experience that people have weird brains, but we can still have interesting convos. I've worked on things like not info dumping or talking about special interests unless the other people are equally interested in those, etc. It's pretty insulting to be told that I don't actually like my hobbies.
He also said that the only reason I'd want to talk to him is sexual attraction. I'm very happy in my relationship (that he knows I'm in). I like getting to know people and hearing their perspectives. I thought he was cool. Key word, thought. I no longer do. Unfortunately, only his ancedotes seem to matter, mine "aren't evidence", and "I couldn't possibly care about statistics" because I only asked for them and didn't share any myself (while I wasn't presenting an argument, just asking, and shared a bit of personal experience because that's what people do in conversations).
Anyway, it sucks. We weren't very close, but it's still infuriating to have someone put me under a microscope and analyse my motivations, and then be adamant in their wrong assessment of those. From my end, I'm pretty sure that was our last conversation. He shifted from someone who used to be fun to banter with and consider possibilities about sociology with to a boring, and dull conversationist who throws out everything I say or could say without thinking.
Edit: I'm not going to talk to him anymore, but does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this in the future (if encountered again?) The militant "you're wrong" about myself is pretty uncomfortable. Thanks.
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