Most of my life I've been surrounded by men. Many have been friends, some have been family and others have been lovers. A significant number of these acquaintances has the kind of trouble with the opposite sex that's often described by redpillers, mgtows and incels. This experience is anecdotal and doesn't necessarily represent the average man. That said, it is worth sharing it on exredpill because their troubles aren't unique and might shed some light on what other men who struggled with the red pill might have experienced. Here's what I've learned from my acquaintances:

Guy A. He is afraid of being used for his money and complains that many of his relationships have been sabotaged by his lack of resources. He isn't poor, but he's not the tradwife dream. His wife often complains about him not being as driven and successful as other men. While he dislikes being judged by his wallet, he has a protector complex that leads him to date women who need financial security and who can't achieve this status on their own efforts.

Guy B. He has been single for a long time and has some struggles with money. He believes women are only interested in money. Although he mentioned that he's had women interested in him, he doesn't want to date seriously until he has financial stability. He doesn't want to be appealing to gold-diggers while simultaneously using his potential wealth as a bait to catch women.

Guy C. He doesn't struggle to get women interested in him, but has trouble keeping them in relationships. He says he doesn't understand why women are so complicated, but sabotages dating by creating unnecessary trouble. He's passive-aggressive towards his closest acquaintances and takes offense at the smallest details. I get the impression he feels vulnerable around people and cuts ties with them before they abandon him.

Guy D. His only long-term adult girlfriend was someone who put him through a rollercoaster by playing hot and cold or dumping him when convenient. Despite the mess of their relationship, he moved in with her and talked about marriage several times. Although not attractive, he wasn't a woman repellent. He got women interested in him, 99% of which he rejected, and was sexually involved with me for a short period of time. His problem has always been that he is attracted to emotionally unavailable but "exciting" women for both hookups and relationships.

Guy E. He is fit and good-looking, but has a very problematic outlook on the opposite sex. He idolizes men like Dan Bilzerian, but refers to women as sluts and complains about the lack of morals among young women. He constantly takes interest in unavailable women and overidealizes them to a ridiculous extent. It looks like he has trust issues and believes that the only women who can't betray that trust are the ones he will never have.

Guy F. He is a cute and well-dressed guy born to be professionally successful. He got sexually intense shortly after we started dating. He boasted about his sexual conquests, tried to sleep with me right away and confessed to me he didn't like wearing condoms. As I discovered shortly afterwards, his sexual persona was a façade to hide his emotional vulnerability, obsession with image and distrust in women. Although I knew that our relationship would be short-lived as I was moving to a different country, I had been planning to date him until my departure. His sexual intensity, however, was too much to handle and he became a one night stand. When I started to pull out of our relationship, he started getting emotionally attached to a very unhealthy level. He also confessed that he acts like he doesn't care because he's very afraid to get hurt.

Guy G. He's your typical macho with a strong madonna-whore complex. He boasts about sleeping around, but laments the women around him aren't wife material. He doesn't understand that birds of a feather flock together. He travels to more traditional countries in the hopes of finding a girl who is "worth it" and who is willing to accept his behavior in a way that women from more egalitarian countries aren't, but those relationships aren't meant to be because of distance.

There are many more similar stories, but that would make this post extremely long. What I'd like to point out is that there seems to be a recurring theme of conflicting desires, self-sabotage and trust issues among men who struggle with relationships, but these seem to be blamed on hypergamy in the manosphere.