I just started reading “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men” by Lundy Bancroft and it’s amazing to read. He is a consultant for domestic and child abuse cases and would counsel men who were convicted of these crimes as part of their “recovery”. (Here is a free version of his book: https://ia800108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf)

The following is a quote from the book. “He [the abuser] often has difficulty conceiving of her as a human being. This tendency in abusers is known as objectification or depersonalization. Most abusers verbally attack their partners in degrading, revolting ways. They reach for the words that they know are most disturbing to women, such as bitch, whore, and cunt, often preceded by the word fat. These words assault her humanity, reducing her to an animal, a nonliving object, or a degraded sexual body part. The partners of my clients tell me that these disgusting words carry a force and an ugliness that feel like violence. Through these carefully chosen epithets- and my clients sometimes admit that they use the most degrading words they can think of-abusers make their partners feel both debased and unsafe. Objectification is a critical reason why an abuser tends to get worse over time.”

I have so two main takeaways from just this small paragraph, and I’d love to hear your opinions too.

1-This objectification of women is very commonplace in the advice of many redpillers. They see women as a thing to get, not as a person to spend their lives with.

2-These words are used a lot by redpillers when they neg women! When they want women to feel low about themselves, they use these ABUSIVE tactics and encourage other men to do this too. This is from people who are in trouble with the law for harming their partners, and this is a scare tactic they use.

Clearly using the same method as an abuser is NOT the way to attract someone for a long healthy relationship but this is the kind of advice being recommended to young impressionable men. How damaging!

As I’m reading this book, I see so many other abusive tactics that remind me of advice given by redpillers; I’ll have to post more quotes and I definitely recommend giving this book series a read.