RP appeals to your insecurity, that's why it's so difficult to forget once you've learned about it

I've experienced and also read many posts where somebody took the red pill, then came to their senses, and now struggles with leaving it entirely.

What happened, generally speaking is:

• You learned about the red pill philosophy most likely while you were dating.

• Dating makes you feel vulnerable. It's impossible not to when you're setting yourself up for possible rejection at literally any stage of dating someone.

• Red pill gives you the tools to mask this insecurity you might feel about yourself with sweeping generalizations about women which don't require you to feel bad about yourself. "Why do I need to evaluate how I approach women, they're all the same, they can't think for themselves, they don't know what they want, I tell them what we're doing and they take it or leave it." So when a girl doesn't respond well to their actions it's just a self-fulfilling loop and the participant has learned nothing about how devastating the actions are to their dating life.

• Red pill contains some legitimate info on self improvement (i.e. exercising, being more confident) which mixes in with the horrible advice, making it more difficult to discern what is worth implementing.

• The worst in my opinion is how much emphasis the RP puts on having sex. Like holy shit. I'm 30, I've had casual sex and I've had romantic sex. I've had sex that was validating and I've had sex that wasn't. Casual sex, or having sex as a form of getting validation from a girl you like is not some end goal that every man needs to aspire to. Like most superficial things in life, it's never enough after you've got it, and you're left feeling empty inside.

I can't reiterate that point enough. RP uses your own insecurity against you, stating you need a girls validation in the form of sex, anytime you want it. It's just not going to make you happy. I dated about a year ago and was having sex, casually, with a couple of girls and I remember actively wanting to date more. I wanted to find another girl to sleep with and I wondered, when will it be enough? Why isn't what I'm doing now enough?

The insecurity and need for validation by someone else is where we need to be looking. Why do we feel this? Why do we need this validation? RP masks all of that.