Tips for young men who have yacked the pill

Comfortable_Intern57 · 2021-06-20T23:24:02+00:00

Good points. Also you are right about dating sites, they are full of Narcissists and toxic people because it's just easier to find people online. It's also so much easier to come across as a normal, decent person online than in real life, so they are hoping to get you ensnared and interested before even meeting Also, online sites are heavily looks based and that's appealing and works in favor of Narcissists.

onlyforsex · 2021-06-21T00:56:19+00:00

There's a lack of nuance nowadays. Many young men get confused because "just be yourself" really isn't great advice. "Be the best version of yourself" is

Excellent post all around and this is so well put

Just going to drop a link to r/DecidingToBeBetter because it's a great sub with great resources for self improvement in many ways, not just the toxic "self improvement = make lots of money and hustle 24/7" mentality.

Toomuch_noise · 2021-06-21T07:50:17+00:00

That's the whole point, you can be a better person and have a better life without being an absolute ass

xvszero · 2021-06-21T01:59:05+00:00

Pretty true. But let me tell you...

Most women biologically want to feel protected (maybe join a martial art, lift some weights)

I've been a skinny dork my whole life (or recently where I'm somehow a skinny dork with a gut) and I did fine. You don't need muscles. It might help with some women. But others like that skinny dork thing.

rainbowbarfff · 2021-06-21T15:07:47+00:00

I think the major thing men need to reject isn't even redpill - its the misogyny that is ingrained in absolutely everybody in this society, including women. Red Pill is nothing more than a symptom of a much bigger problem. It is a hyperbole of the every day misogyny that is engrained in men via the patriarchy.

Being fit will help you with women

It might, but men greatly overestimate this part because they look at the attractiveness of men through the male gaze. Men like muscles on each other and assume that women like muscles on men too. Sure, it can be attractive but women also fall for men that look like wet cigarettes because what we find attractive in men is more of a combination of qualities vs one.

I will say this - if you are planning on holding women to a standard of physical fitness, you should do your part to embody those same standards as well.

With that being said, I have personally dated guys of all different weights and sizes. I love me a dad bod same as I'll love me a string bean. It really just depends on the guy and what he does to my nether regions.

Doesn't hurt to dress well and get a nice haircut

This is arguably way more important than the first point. WAY more important. And honestly, what we consider "dressing well" varies by woman and her personal interests. Personally, I like men who don't dress embarrassing. By embarrassing, I mean being 40 years old and dressing like a teenager in nothing BUT screen print tees, cargo shorts/pants and the same sneakers day in, day out.

I am pretty fashionable and a lot of the guys that like me will like me because I embody a specific alternative/goth style that they find attractive, but guess what buddy? It took time, effort and money to look this way and its embarrassing to roll up to a restaurant in a nice outfit, heels and my hair and makeup done for you to think its appropriate to show up in cargo shorts and the same, tired, tore up new balance sneakers.

Women like ambitious men with hobbies and passions

YES but this shouldn't be done because this is what women like. This should be done because you genuinely have these interests, hobbies and passions.

Most women biologically want to feel protected (maybe join a martial art, lift some weights)

Honestly? Yes. I don't really need to feel like you could fight off an attacker but...have some fucking balls, please? I can't be the spit-fire that's expected to defend us as a unit 24/7 and way too many men expect this out of us fiery types. Have some bravado and stand up for yourself AND me when its needed.

Confidence is important

Water is wet. Air is breathable. This one is beyond obvious, it is a default. You need to be confident for everything - work, friends and yes, women. But women should be the LAST reason why you're working on your confidence.

ImpressivePiccolo9 · 2021-06-21T10:54:20+00:00

Other than dating apps, is picking up women the only way to go? I'm self employed and no college, so I'm basically stuck and the only way to go is to talk to some female strangers (like cashier or something) and hoping to continue the interaction through chatting and phone call. But I find it difficult and confusing since most males that talk about PUA are redpill (like teaching men that women love aggressive men).

GarglinMay0 · 2021-06-21T12:07:24+00:00

Facts my brother

Ok-Advertising-5384 · 2021-06-21T12:49:20+00:00

I don’t understand how the is ex red pill but all the things you’re saying are red pill things. Literally each thing in the true list are things I learned from RP and the untrue list are things I learned are untrue also from RP people. I think y’all are confused

audacious_wirble · 2021-06-21T14:50:39+00:00

Instead of dating sites... there are tons of social groups available across many platforms. Meet up gives you the opportunity to meet people in your area doing something you are interested in. Which is a fantastic way to break the ice.

Facebook has social meet up groups as well, based on activities. If you want yo meet women to fuck, then stick to the "toxic" dating sites as most have the same idea in mind. If you are looking for real dating material... try a different alternative.

deepdig2020 · 2021-06-21T01:23:17+00:00

So many young men are already trying to improve themselves and trying to get on board with the idea that women are biologically more likely to like men who are better than them but that doesn't make it fun and it does not make it right

Title	Tips for young men who have yacked the pill
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Date	June 20, 2021 10:58 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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