I am terribly tired and drained by such behavior in women. They come to me, they want something at some point. It is always an outpouring of their problems on me and seeking help. The worst part is that being an empathetic person, I don't know how to just say "back off".
They can go on for months looking for support every time they have a problem. They always come in with butter eyes and start a pleasant conversation about the usual topics, but as soon as the atmosphere gets too comfortable and they feel the ground under their feet, they start talking about their traumas, experiences and problems. They can go on for months looking for support every time they have a problem. On the other hand, they try to make me feel attached with sweet lies and fairy tales about my personality or appearance.
As soon as they find stability in their lives - usually it's finding a boyfriend and stabilizing their living situation, then they start to dump me and avoid contact. They don't reply to messages. In the end, when asked why, they come up with many reasons - lack of time, not checking notifications, lack of space on the phone or just silence.
So far, I have let myself be used this way twice and when the third time another one came and started her argument, I automatically ignored her and walked away. Since then, I've started avoiding women because I can't stand the fact that practically my every contact with them is solely about them wanting to get out of the emotional hole.
